“Let go of what you think is supposed to happen. Just let it be.”
-Lee Pruitt, Being Mary Jane, S4

Womb Things.

Continuation from my thoughts on the BET Show, Being Mary Jane, I know she had this burning desire to be a wife and mother, but mother was what she wanted with a passion. While watching I was thinking about my own feelings towards motherhood, and I KNOW I would kill the ‘job’ but I don’t have that without a doubt passion to become a mother. The Life I currently live doesn’t really support that of a child. I love being able to do whatever it is I’d like, without having to think of another human. I don’t have to be considerate of anyone, and I only have to take care of myself. Plus I don’t have to give up my window seat. 😉

I remember watching a documentary on Black women, motherhood and freezing their eggs, and the women who was interviewed all had the same in common; becoming a mother so bad, they wouldn’t allow to not bed one. Bot matter how much money, or time, or anything, they couldn’t see their lives not being a mother. That was their identity, although they had not been able to produce any children yet. While watching I realize I do not have that identity. If I don’t have a baby, it doesn’t make me feel like I am missing out on something. That’s just not my path.

Tristan.

Being Her.

I just binged watched Being Mary Jane S4 episode 10-20, then watched the finale movie, which was concluded with a nice bow. By the end of Season 4, I was screaming thru the television, and if there was an actual season 5, I would NOT have watched. I just couldn’t take the character anymore, her ridiculous decision making skills was too much. I apologize not ridiculous, just massive impulsive decisions, all the time, was making it hard for me to continue to relate to this character. It was interesting watching the show, and I throughly enjoyed it!

Like I said, it ended with a bow but Idk if I loved her choice in partners. I mean I still roll my eyes at her going to get pregnant after only two days of Justin being gone, but he still left. Again, not an excuse, but we all know how Mary Jane is, so it is plausible that she believed he was gone for good. Although she kicked Lee out of the apt they was touring, and he still came over the next day because an argument doesn’t mean its a breakup. However Justin left. Then he left again, when she confirmed she was pregnant. There was several points in their relationship where he left. But Beau came in and made himself useful? Was there for MJ when she was doing all the things alone. Because she wanted to get married, I am happy she did, the person didn’t really matter to me.

Jonez.

Being S4

I’m taking my ass to sleep, but I, for a second, thought about bingeing Season Four of Being Mary Jane but these first three episodes already have me annoyed. So I AM going to take breaks because girl whet. MJ is most def going to waste Lee’s time, I already know when his children come for a visit, she’s going to realize that she wants to build her own family, and him having two kids just won’t fit in the mold she believes she should have. However I am going to stick with this storyline, because she does deserve someone who is honest and upfront about the things that matters in his life. But for the record, we all know MJ feels a quick emotion and just make whatever decision, then tries to atone later on.

Rhonda Sales aint the one to play with! Kara told MJ what she needed to do, but nah, as usual MJ is gonna do whatever she wants and that sorely backfired on her. Like get it together. So at this moment, Mary Jane is repping all that she deserves. Tighten up babe.

Tristan J.

Mary Jane S3E10

Although I know that Mary Jane wants Black love, wants Black babies (?) and just overall wants the Black experience and what point does she allows herself to be opened to the possibility of dating ‘other’? In this episode MJ and the white guy she’s been canoodling with have actually made it outside, and in spaces with other people, but of course shit goes to the left, when a Black couple frowns upon her interaction with said white man. Even though in that scene, their physical interaction was very minor, just a hug, but the judgment of these random folk makes you question everything happening between you and this man? I do know race is a tricky thing, especially as a person who has dated other, but why do we have to complicate it? He likes you, you like him, is it wasting time if the possibility is there? I get that he won’t always understand the ‘inside’ jokes of Black folk, and the full experience of being a Black woman, but there wasn’t a way to see where the relationship could’ve went?

Well, Hmm.

Tristan Jonez.

S2 Finale

This is a spoiler but this show has been out for ten years, so I don’t think I’m spoiling much. However still Spoiler Alert.

Season Two finale of Being Mary Jane, David AND Lisa need they ass beat. Equally. Promptly. It was one thing for Lisa to feel slighted that MJ had dated David, possibly knowing Lisa had a crush but Its a WHOLE ‘NOTHER THING, for Lisa to give him head on ‘off’ times with Mary Jane. When she was saying it, my mouth was wide opened cuz babes, what are you doing? I’m still upset with her cuz you’ve been holding all of this in since college, and y’all are well into y’all thirties. And Its even worse for David, cuz sir, you are in a relationship with me. Intimate with me, even accepting of having a baby with me, but you’ve rocked with my friend? huh? Granted he definitely took advantage of Lisa, but maybe he was genuinely surprised she felt like this but why then hide it from Mary Jane? Sir, you knew you was in the wrong, if nothing else. Ohhhhhh weeeeeeee they could NEVER say anything to me, and for Lisa, my family took you in. So even if you was head over heels for David, you had the most to lose from this interaction being more than anything but friends. Cuz now my fam isn’t fucking with you, anymore.

Chile, with friends like these. Fuck em both.

Tristan Jonez.

Being MJ

I’m watching Being Mary Jane, and I have thoughts. Lots of thoughts but right now I’m focused on her and Andre, this married man. Although I do not condone cheating, cheating with a married man, is a different kind of horrid karma. When she didn’t know, that’s one thing, but now that you’ve made a decision to partake in this, unfortunately MJ deserves everything that will happen in the future. Also, how can you trust this man not to do the same thing to you? Granted his actually seem to be going thru with divorcing his wife, but at what point does he get tired of you, and want to see what else is out there? When your job is taking too much of your time? When he isn’t the one being put first?

While married man and Avery (his wife) was in therapy, he listed all these things that she’s responsible for, and didn’t feel like a priority, and I can understand. However its never crossed his mind, that Avery is responsible for everything, so when its time to be spontaneous, she doesn’t have any more of herself left to give. Ugh, he just gets on my damn nerves, truly. Now can she possibly give more, yes, But that will ONLY happen when the married man takes some things off her plate. I’m sure in marriage its a give and take, that balances everything.

I do hope Mary Jane really looks at this situation for what its worth, and leave him where he’s at … with his wife.

Jonez.