So I’m back from gallivanting, and it was such a fun little adventure.

But I think my family, on both sides are out of their minds. Facillating a relationship with your nieces/nephews should start when they’re young, but If circumstances doesn’t allow for that, more accordingly. I fully understand what it’s like to not have access to them because you do not communicate with their parent, whether that’s your brother or sister, but once you ARE able to then do so. In this instance, I am an adult, so if you are making the effort as my aunt, or cousin, or whatever the relation, then its UP TO YOU, to put forth the work. Reciprocity, will come into the picture later, but in the beginning stages, baby that’s all you. So giving yourself a boundary/timeline would be a good thing. My aunts on my father side claim to want a relationship with me, but aren’t consistent in communication. If you’re only chatting with me once every six months then I am going to act accordingly.

I am an aunt, with has a shit relationship with my sister but I have to move according to the bounds of which I am allowed. Thankfully my nephew has a mobile device, but he’s still a child, so it’ll go uncharged for days, etc. Its up to me to call, to text, to leave messages and videos, all of the things because I am the adult. I do not expect him to call me regularly, because again, he is a child, so the weight falls on me IF I want to have that relationship with him. If I want us to have an aunt/nephew relationship I have to put in the work now so that in the future when he’s older, he’ll know how to foster relationships of his own.

Jonez.