Fly Awake 

The Best Seat Will forever be the window seat. I feel weightless every single time an aircraft takes off, appreciating where I’ve been and having gratitude for where I will travel to makes living life worth it. I can’t imagine who I’d be without the opportunity to visit certain countries/communities. Every time I experience a new place, a new part of myself is unlocked. 

If you don’t realize, I hold travel in high regard. You’ll never reach your highest level of enlightenment without travel. No excuses, Make it happen! 

Tristan Jonez! 

Haterade Nation. 

I’ll admit, because I’m always super honest with you guys, that I almost turned into a hater this week. As you all know, there’s nothing more I’d like to do than live in my Soul city of Chicago but when it came time to transfer, unforeseen circumstances prevented that. So a coworker IS actually transferring to Chicago and I was a bit bitter at first when I was told. I was (almost) a hater because I wanted so badly for that to be me. 

I had to be real with myself, and remember how blessed I was for the opportunities that are presenting themselves, and Chicago may not be my destination right now. I owed it to myself to trust my journey but to wish my coworker well on her path. Since today was her last day, I brought a banging cake and a card, that had every little trinket that would remind her of New York. I decided to make this about her, and I’m so glad I did. 

So, tell me when YOU was almost a hater!

Tristan Jonez 


To better cope with the death of my mother, somehow I created a game that was to be played by us. Whenever I saw the numbers 10:13, that was my indication that my mother was thinking about me, and wanted me to know. 10:13 was my momma’s birthday! Over the years, seeing this, has brought me so much comfort, especially on days where I just didn’t want to deal with life. I feel my spirit being uplifted, when I see this, and most times it feels so random. I just happen to look at my watch, then Bam! its 10:13.

Do you guys have any ‘games’ that you may have created to communicate with your loved ones who may have passed away?

Tristan Jonez

Back Home.

Why are we always so quick to be there for those who have hurt us but don’t make the same exceptions for those who have always been there? I don’t know the answer but I intend to change that immediately.

This evening my older cousin called to let me know she had experienced a heart attack. A Fckin Heart Attack! Although I was elated to know she was alright, it made me realize I’m not there as much as I should be for the family that has shown me they love me to the moon and back. For those readers who don’t know I am from Baltimore, Md. I spent my adolescent there but when I left in 2004, I haven’t really come back as often as I would like to. I always find a convenient excuse to tell my family/friends. When my mother first died it was extremely hard to go back to Baltimore because EVERYTHING reminded me of my mother. However with this realization, that my family isn’t going to be around forever, makes me want to spend as much time with them as I can.


SideNote: Don’t wait until folks have died to bring them flowers, Let them smell them while they are Alive!


Meet My Heart in Human Form, Kayden!

My nephew is such an incredible human being. I am so blessed to have been chosen to be his aunt. I know everyone think that their nephew is the best thing out there since Wheat bread but Sorry, I already called dibs on that! KJ is such a warm spirit that makes me laugh until my stomach hurts, until tears are streaming down my face, he just makes everything that is complicated in this World, uncomplicated.

KJ is the easiest answer to the most difficult questions in Life. Every analogy that you would want to use to describe him, would suffice. He is the sunshine to my Thunderstorm, I don’t think I have ever loved someone the way I love my Kayden. The best thing about him, even when he hasn’t seen me in a while, he makes me feel like I’m right up there with Spiderman and the Ninja Turtles.

I couldn’t even begin to tell you guys how much this little person means to me. All I can say is I’m the most blessed person that’s ever lived, all because this lil boy loves me unconditionally. And I … I love him more than life itself.


Mother’s Day, 17.

Today is Mother’s Day.

Since my own mother died, I stopped paying attention to this particular holiday. I think I was salty that everyone else had a mother or a mother figure, and I didn’t. I haven’t celebrated Mother’s Day since my mother was alive. So today I decided I would celebrate the mother’s that I did know, including a lot of first time mothers. (Shout out to Jennifer!)I wanted them to know they were appreciated, especially by me. I know its no small feat to be able to bring life into the world.

As of today, I haven’t had the pleasure of becoming a Mother but I will when the time is right for me. For my friends/Readers, that are awesome mothers or know an amazing mother, I wish all of you the happiest of Day!

Tristan J.