Dear Blk Men

I know you might be scared to assist a Blk woman when she is being harassed by a black man, but please imagine how scared she might be in that situation. More often than not, I deal with my share of harassing experiences, today was just an intense version. So the blue line in Chicago, is just full of all the wrong shit, and usually avoid it all the time. However It was the closest train, so this black man, loudly, told me how he would ‘fuck the shit out of me’ and ‘how he know I would like it’ It caught me so off guard, I verbally said, “What?!” to which he went on to say more of the same. And even though, on the outside, I may have looked cool, I was scared af, and paranoid. Was he going to follow me on the train, harass me more there, possibly try to get physical with me? To be in a crowd of people, and wonder, will anyone help me, if it came to it? Would I be the next person online, trying to fight an attacker, with everyone around, only to record it?

As much as I love being a Black Woman, Sometimes I have trouble navigating the space I am in, in regards to other Black Men. My body, EVEN WHEN FULLY DRESSED, is sexualized! I’ve normalized traveling with pepper spray, and a taser when I can, but I would love to experience this World, without fearing if the man next to me is going to Hurt me.

Jonez.

Also, All the situations Ive ever had in life, that was sexually harassing, was with a Black Man.