Travel Buddy

Y’all know I just realized I didn’t really share anything about the London/Lisboa birthday trip. And here we are in April!! So yes, shame on me.

Wanna know something? I’m sure this is all in my head, but It sometimes feel like bragging when posting my travels. I know I haven’t really shared much on here but I rarely post on social media because I don’t want folks to feel like I’m boasting. I know, I know, folks post all type of shit on socials but still. So I’m making the decision to share, and share often. I mean this IS supposed to be travel vlog/blog.

Keep my accountable please.

Tristan Jonez.

38 Candles.

Written on January 14 @ 12:58a

Happy Birthday to Me!

I’m having a hard time trying to decided what to do for this birthday, but this year feels like a good one. Who the hell knows what will transpire, where I’ll go and the folks I’ll meet but its still feeling a season of fun. And that is something I look forward to. Not making any promises about what type of time I’m going to be on, but I do know, I just want to keep my word to myself. I’m confident that I’ll have fun creating whatever memories will be created.

So Birthday Girl, If you decided to go to London, or possibly Puerto Rico cuz its cold af in Chicago, or just decided to stay in your city, I know ‘ThirtyATE’ will be the best birthday year! Also, don’t forget to open your card. Love you, and Happy Birthday Again!

Tristan Jonez.

Adulting the Adult.

Out of shower thought, when you are an adult, people expect you to be an adult at all times, even with adults that are more adult than you. All that to say, no days off. Its like when I’m prepping for a flight and I’m the flight lead, I have to be ‘on’ at all times. There’s very little room for me to allow the perception to be anything other than what I need it to be. In those moments, yes, I create and hold the narrative. But when it comes to adulting, and navigating other adults its such a tricky thing cuz I know what I would do in that instant. However I cant navigate someone else. And here’s the issue at hand, so currently as I type, there’s some sort of discourse in my family. The why is unknown to me, but apparently I am ‘upset’ with an aunt. Although I haven’t chatted with ANYONE, and made this tidbit known, but today I received a phone call from my uncle, my aunts husband. Not in an aggressive manner, he wanted to get to the root of the problems, but its hard when the person in question doesn’t have one. As I’ve explained to him, I legitimately DO NOT BOTHER ANYONE! I stay in my little Chicago bubble, and play in my little bloogy blog. However I let my uncle get out all the things he wanted to say, without interruption.

Its just frustrating because as an adult when things arise, or I feel a way, I do my best to address it head-on BEFORE it has a chance to even get out of hand. I do not talk to folks in my family so If anyone should ever heard that I’ve said something the source should be questioned immediately. Uncle ended the call with my aunt would be calling sometime soon, but why not when she first felt or heard I had a problem? Once again I cant adult an adult, I can only allow folks to be themselves, and do whatever it is they would like to.

How’s your day going? Hopefully its a chill day for you!

Jonez.

Cosplay.

Do you ever cosplay as the elevated version of yourself? and obviously I mean within reason, or maybe not, I don’t knowBut seriously do you do things that the elevated version of you would do? Maybe I’m describing manifestation by another name? or daydreaming? Anyway, the elevated version of myself indulges in tea time at luxurious hotels, such as the Four Seasons, and the Langham here in Chicago, every season. Actually that’s how she/I kick(s) off the start of the season, with a customized tea time. And the theme differs depending on her/my vibe, but its always stylish, classic and timeless. All maybe this is all coming to the forefront of my mind because I want to do a tea. I love being fussy about what I’m going to wear, and dressing up, and just the whole ordeal of the event.

So do you ever?

Jonez.

Maybe IT is Me.

I’ve worked with a therapist to not internalize things but something triggering will happen and poof! I’m back to asking myself, well is it me? Am I the fucking problem? And I know in this most recent incident I’m not but still. Why am I never giving the benefit of the doubt? Why doesn’t anyone ever say, Nah she aint even on that type of time, and call and address whatever weird feelings THEY are currently having? After accessing earlier, I really do stay to my damn self, In my little Chicago Bubble. Why? Because its the safest place I’ve ever been. I can be my full self, without wondering what about me is going to annoy someone.

I do apologize for venting but I’m just in a weird space this evening. However I am not going to spend my time complaining. I’ve already took a shower, moisturized my body with my favorite body oil, and I’m in the bed. Already listening to wind chimes in a storm, lol.

Take Care of yourself. -Jonez.

2024

Happy New Year babes!

May this year be filled with an abundance of Love, Of Joy, and All the things that make you smile without hesitation. You are Loved! Thank you for rocking with me.

We’ll make this a year to remember.

Tristan Jonez.

Not Cleared

Today was a physical therapy day, and it doesn’t look like I am going to be cleared back to work on the 28th of December like I’d planned to be. The therapist says I need a few more appointments before she’ll be good on letting me go back to work with no restrictions. (Rolls Eyes) I understand but money doesn’t make itself. Bills still need to get paid! However I did receive the workers comp paycheck, but its not enough. I couldn’t imagine being a single parent, and having to make due with just that, good thing I don’t have children but I feel for those who do, and are in this type of situation.

Y’all didn’t ask, but I’m sure you wanted an update on my progress.

Jonez.

Cuba, second time.

Did we chat about Cuba the last time I went? Unintentionally I don’t think I shared much of anything from that trip, except if you want to see Cuba, then go! I’ll be more forthcoming this time. It was a short trip, just for the weekend, for diner en blanc, which was a really good time. Instead of going solo like the first time I went with a travel company, and It, surprisingly was a really good time. Also, I always had someone to take my photo. I know, a change from only being able to take selfies.

This time I was able to do the classic car tour, and it was really the highlight of my trip! I was genuinely so excited, and happy to be sitting in the backseat, being driven with the top down. Absolutely a 10/10. It didn’t hurt that the tour guide was beautiful! On the tour we went to a cigar & rum shop, the circle where Che Guerra’s outlined face is on a building, and our last location was the oldest forest in Cuba. While there we indulged in a bevy of alcohol beverages, including Cuba libre, Mojitos and Pina Coladas. Such a fabulous time was had.

Tristan Jonez.

Genesis,

Ive been listening to Leon Thomas’s first album, Genesis.

I know I said I would give y’all a list of my top three, and Sunken Place was number one but I think that’s changed since I’ve last wrote. Have y’all listened yet? IF not, y’all need to get on it, especially since he’s going on a promotional tour, as there’s only four cities. Chicago, Atlanta, New York and Los Angeles.

Top Three

Mrs Variety
PLW
Beg

Sunken Place didn’t even make the list, (It would make top five) and I feel shamed but I’m confident in my choices.

Jonez.

Its been a while since Ive put my business out on front street but here we are.

Well this is family business, so If y’all didn’t know, I’m no contact with my sister, and I’m very at peace with that decision. I could honestly care less about her, I don’t need nor want a relationship with her, however I do have a nephew. A little chocolate boy that I love very much, and unfortunately I have to at least be cordial with my sibling for the sake of having a relationship with him. Yes, he is at an age where he can have a cell phone but he’s a kid, I don’t expect him to keep his phone charged, and reach out to me, although he can. So there’s multiple times where I call, and FaceTime, and I receive no answer, I do send a followup text but once again, he’s a child.

Its just so frustrating when you want to be a part of their lives, but you don’t rock with the parent. He hurt himself this week, and was visibly upset, which my eldest niece told me. So of course I call, text, etc and received no reply. SO the next best thing, is to contact my sibling, so that when he’s available he could call me, but that very small exchange, set her off. I was told I was bothering her, like girl. Everything isn’t about you. I don’t take pleasure in chatting with you, but If I want to check in on my nephew, its you I have to go thru. Now the decision has been presented to just leave him be If its through my sister I have to go. Which, even in writing this, makes me incredibly sad.

Damn, I just realized I wrote so much.

Tristan J.

Outside pt.1

Well babes, I have been outside, just a little. I’ve been on a mission to do more than just be in the house on my days off, plus I promised myself I would get fresh air everyday. Happy to report, that since making that affirmation to myself, I have indeed gone out everyday. Now I’m not always getting ‘dressed’ sometimes its a sweats and tee shirt kinda day but oh well … fresh air was had. I also haven’t been in the mood to watch television, so nothing new to chat about in that area but I have seen a few broadway shows, and a concert. The weather is unseasonably warm here in Chicago, but slowly, that fall breeze is breezing.

Not that you was worried, but I won’t leave you for super long periods of time anymore.

Jonez.

Ball Game

I don’t know if I told y’all but I took myself to the White Sox baseball game today. (Not sure when I’m posting this but I went 9/27) It was actually a fun time, and they WON! I remember baseball games being slower and a lot more boring. This wasn’t that! It was an experience hearing the ‘walk up’ music, when the player is walking up to the mound (?) to bat. And some had full on intros being played on the jumbotron!! You just had to be there. If I’m being honest, I haven’t a clue who plays on the team, I was there only for the food, and because the admission fare was $1. Technically it was 89 cents but tax. Since it was my first game at the stadium, I was able to get a pin and a certificate. I’m sure this service was more geared to children, but whatever, I needed a certificate!

Sidenote, Ive been wanting to go to a professional baseball game for a while now! If I’m honest, I wanted to go to a St. Louis cardinals game since, at the time, I was visiting so frequently. Plus the hotel I utilize when at work, is very close to the Bush Stadium. However the guy I was dating during several baseball seasons, would legit just ignore my request to attend.

So it was a lovely experience to eat, cheer, and just be at the ball game.

How did you spend your Thursday?

Jonez