As I get older, the things I find attractive in a man changes slightly.
A man who is consistent, who knows and understand the art of consistency, will forever get my time. I also believe consistency is such a quality for me, since my worklife is inconsistent. There are some days, most days, where I don’t know where I am going to end up, after flying all day. So knowing there’s someone who is putting in the work, keep a part of my Life, routined, puts me at ease for living. So shout out to the men, who are consistent with me, and with the life we create together.
Fellas, stop introducing women to a vibe you cannot maintain. Whatever that vibe may be. I get it, when you initially meet a person you want to be the very best version of yourself, even if it means, not fully being the person you are … on a daily basis. As a woman, we are already conditioned to know we are meeting a mans representative when we first meet you anyway, so we take the things you do with a grain of salt. Not meaning we aren’t appreciative of whatever it is you are doing but we are looking to see if the actions you put forward are ones, that you are being consistent with.
See that? It ALL Narrows down to consistency.
Please remember that as you move forward wooing the ones you are attempting to woo. Effort is everything, but consistency is the hill on which effort lives.
“What do you like to do for fun?”
I fucking hate that question! Seriously, is there anything else you can ask? My Answer is usually generic, something along the lines of ‘I’m all about travel, the arts, and most definitely food’. I love it when a man, can just hold a conversation, I don’t need twenty one questions. This is the only time I am go with the flow, I allow the conversation to go wherever it may go. I like when a man knows how to navigate his way through a conversation.
My thirty something self dated a twenty something man, and I learned I have absolutely patience for that level of education. Age is more than just a fucking number, Aaliyah Lied! Maybe its because I am a woman, and I know what I like, its hard to teach a man, who THINKS he knows what a woman wants, but ummm no. Fuck No! Maybe Id met the wrong twenty something but I don’t know if I would be open to another cuz y’all… I was exhausted, and not in the most obvious ways. It’s like he wanted to be in charge, in control, but he didn’t have the follow through, that I needed him to have.
As a young man, I get it, you think you know what you’re doing sexually because youre no longer a virgin but I have a few lessons to teach. A twenty something who is unteachable isn’t a man I want to build a damn thing with. Ive never been into dating younger, and the one time I go out of my comfort zone, I get a know it all, who turns out, knows nothing at all.