Funny Thing

As I get older, I find myself thinking about all sorts of things… mostly things dealing with love and life. I’m a bit hung up on soulmates, If I have one, and If I do, where is he? I’ve been thinking what if a soulmate has nothing to do with another human, what if your soul is connected to a place? If my destiny wasn’t connected to another person It wouldn’t surprise me since I’m fully connected to Chicago.

I wish I could adequately explain how Chicago makes me feel. For a second put aside everything you’ve ever heard about the city. When I land It feels like home, in spite of  itself it feels safe to me. Chicago welcomes me home with opened arms, its like receiving a warm cup of tea after being outside in the cold for too long. In high school, I just KNEW I had to visit Chicago, there was some force beyond myself pulling me there. I still feel that pull, and I make sure to fly to Chicago every single chance I get. Chicago grounds me in a way that no other place has been able to do. Philadelphia has come close, but I always feel something is missing when I stay there for too long.

Have you ever been connected to a place?

Jonez.

 

 

 

Talent V. Hustle

Hustle beats Talent when Talent doesn’t hustle. -Unknown

Although I believe I am super talented, talent will not get me where I want alone. So I have to do what I know how, as well make shit up as I go along. I’m good with adapting to my environment. Life has thrown me a few curve balls, so I just do what needs to be done. Don’t get me wrong, I have many low days, where I could care less about getting out the bed BUT If I don’t hustle I wont eat. I was recently sick with the flu, and work was the furthest thing from my mind. However I did it cuz I had to, but don’t worry I’m home taking care of myself.

I can hustle with the best of ’em but I’ll be the first to admit I haven’t put out my best content… I’ve been coasting lately. My personal life has distracted me these past few weeks, but I’ve settled those situations. I’m 100% focus on what I need to do for myself and my brand. Thank you for rocking with me!

Tristan.

 

How to.

If I’m ever in need of inspiration, How to make it in America, is my go to show! It is the epitome of hustling to follow your dream, and making mistakes every single step of the way. But that’s what I love about the show. It validates that your dreams are real, and you better hustle like hell to make them come true, and even when you hustle, you can still fail. The best thing about the show, Is Cam and Ben have one another. Granted in your real life you may be going at this alone, but I encourage you to find a squad/tribe that you can unpack/vent to. I’m out here trying to make the best of what I have, but Im still looking and meeting folks that will be my squad.

Do I expect everyone I meet to be apart of my vision… No. But I do expect to have those interactions either be a lesson or a blessing, either way it will be beneficial for me. I definitely out here hustling for the vision I see for myself, cuz when its my time to go, this chick will have NO REGRETS!

What do you do when your inspiration is low? How do/did you find your squad?

 

Tristan J.

Fun & Games

It’s all fun and games until I no longer answer the phone. Until those text messages start going unanswered. Until you’ve been blocked and you’re wondering why its’ been months since I’ve made an effort. So recently I texted a few folks that I was done with them but I wished them the very best. A few inquired as to why, but the majority accepted their fate. For the one of the two that inquired why, he laughed it off when I explained my reasoning, he even stated he would be ‘better’… it’s been a few days and better has yet to appear.  The other was irritated that I had come to this conclusion, and tried to turn the table on me. Shaming me, stating that “One day I’m with him, then the next I am against him.” I flipped my shit. People will try to turn ish back on your when you finally decide to call them out on their ish! I’ve been ‘down’ for this guy since I was 19! I can’t even remember why I allow him to continue to get through when he text but that was then and this is now. There will never be a day where he will get that type of loyalty from me EVER!

Once you lose me as a friend, that means you didn’t take care of your part as a friend to me. I hold on to folks despite myself, in spite of your behavior. At what point do I say enough is enough? After I’ve been so used, that I’m now a bitter ole bitty, that pushes everyone away? Nah Kid, I’d rather ass-kick you out of my World.

Tristan.

Uncivilize Me

I think it’s the most mature action, to decide with a level head that a relationship is not working for you, and to follow through with the steps to end it. I wish life wasn’t messy and when you stopped loving someone the feelings they have for you also stopped. However there would be no fun in that. (Side-Eye)

It takes a lot of wrong to make me want to stop trying. As long as you are willing I will be willing to do whatever is needed to make the relationship work. I’m def not a quitter but I’m learning that not everything needs to be saved. Some things you are REQUIRED to let die. I was with my ex -boyfriend for five years, and I always say after three we should’ve stayed broken up. I even moved to another city! And yet I came back to be with that man. Everything happens for a reason though, with my coming back to New York I began working for a company, with amazing benefits… so a win.

As I matured I’ve learned how to express myself better, my communication has greatly improved. But there are times where I do not want to be civilized! I just want to ‘break up’ by cursing you out, being petty and acting like an adolescent. Why should I be the mature one?

Tristan J.

ChristmasamtsirhC

This message is being written on December 16.

The idea of Christmas has greatly changed from what is was as a child. It used to be a representation of family, and love. Now unfortunately its just another day on the calendar. I’m assuming when I have a family of my own, the meaning of Christmas will once again change.

However I want to wish you and your family, a Very Happy Christmas Season. I’m thankful I have you guys to share in my highs and lows. Love you to life.

 

Tristan Jonez.

Not Mr. Nice Guy

I have an annoying habit of seeing the best in everyone. People know this about me and take advantage of me. It’s like I’m the punching bag of most folks ‘cuz as a fool I just take it. I’ve grown tired of that lifestyle as I know there are folks out there who will treat me the way I’d like to be treated.
Folks will only do what you allow, and since I’ve allowed It for so long, this is the Tristan they have gotten accustomed to. So when I’m telling them that their behavior is no longer acceptable they look as if I’ve grown seven heads. As much as I hate cutting folks off, my inner peace is shattered dealing with ‘friends’ who don’t have the same type of love for me, as I do them.
Find your tribe, and love on them wholeheartedly!
Tristan