Vibe

Fellas, stop introducing women to a vibe you cannot maintain. Whatever that vibe may be. I get it, when you initially meet a person you want to be the very best version of yourself, even if it means, not fully being the person you are … on a daily basis. As a woman, we are already conditioned to know we are meeting a mans representative when we first meet you anyway, so we take the things you do with a grain of salt. Not meaning we aren’t appreciative of whatever it is you are doing but we are looking to see if the actions you put forward are ones, that you are being consistent with.

See that? It ALL Narrows down to consistency.

Please remember that as you move forward wooing the ones you are attempting to woo. Effort is everything, but consistency is the hill on which effort lives.

Jonez.

MAsturmusical

Weird Question to ask but …

Do you have a set playlist when its time to pleasure yourself? I was just thinking about the time we set aside for selfceare, and the ritual that follows. Which naturally got me thinking about myself, and who I listen to when I take the time to practice my own sexual self care. My Go to usually is Rico Love, but it has to be his ‘Even Kings Die’ Album.

SideNote; Its an incredible album!

Tristan Jonez.

Concrete Cowboy

In a book to film adaption, I have found myself wanting to watch it again, but to read the book to see where the holes I have can be filled. “Ghetto Cowboy” by Gregory Neri, ‘A street smart tale about a displaced teen who learns to defend what’s right-the cowboy way’. Featuring Idris Elba, and Caleb Mclaughlin, as a son estranged from his father, but it sent to live with him, after his mother has reached her limit. You can feel her frustration with the current affairs of not only her son, but that isn’t able to reach him in a way, that encourages him to change his behavior.

Not going to spoil it anymore than I have, but for me, even though when absolutely needed, the father was there, it was ONLY when he was absolutely needed.

It saddens me, but tough love is nothing without soft love as well. You can’t believe a person is going to be balanced, when only receiving tough love. Nothing is ever good enough love, nah. Tough love is successfully ONLY when paired with soft love, the cycle can never be broken by doing what was done to you.

Tristan Jonez.

The Waves

I know I am meant to live by the ocean, beach vibes is me. In fact, I am working towards, being able to live in a beach town, but before I do that, I want to spend a year in Chicago. So sometimes when I am not able to sleep, I reach for a little ‘white’ noise. My absolute favorite on Spotify is the playlist, 300 Ocean Waves. When you’re settled into bed, under the covers, its almost as if you are actually laying on the beach. I can almost feel the gentle warm breeze, and before I can emerge myself into the wave, I’m sleep.

I can be the person that falls asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow, but some nights I need a sprinkle of magic. Most nights its Waves, but I switch to Rain hitting a surface, crickets or even the forest sounds. Do you ever need assistance falling asleep?

Tristan Jonez.

Oh and sometimes, I’ll turn on airplane noises, for fun, of course!

Flowering Flowers

Have I told ya I be out here putting together floral arrangements? Well Have a seat, and let me put yall up on game. I can’t remember with what day or arrangement it started with. Lets just say Valentines day. I remember the roses I put together but I cant remember much else. Luckily for you, and me if I’m being honest, I took photos! Shout Out to Trader Joe’s, If you go early in the day, there’s usually a nice selection of random flowers they put together. Depending on what flowers are talking to me, I spend no more than 15$, but I don’t buy flowers every week. When my current bouquet is dead, and I mean dead dead, then I prepare to buy a new set.

I brought tulips, to celebrate the first days of Spring, but even with a delay getting them cut and into water, they last such a long time, a few weeks. And I captured them in the dying process, up until the very last day, they were such beauties. Theres just something about fresh flowers that make you a bit happier with the day.

Jonez

Crashing Weddings

Legit, the funniest movie I’ve seen in a while, Wedding Crashers. I know I’ve seen it before, or at least I thought I had but I was in tears the whole movie. I’m dying laughing writing this, spoiler, the part where they are all at the dinner table, and the father is like I’ve seen you dancing, and Vince Vaughn hits Owen Wilson with his legs, OMG! For me, that is the funniest part! I probably could watch it repeatedly and still laugh. Its such an oldie but I know y’all have seen it … and if not, well do yourself a favor!

Also, do men really crash weddings to be able to sleep with single women? I put nothing past a man, but lord that just screams desperate.

Tristan J.

PS. Its currently on Hulu and HboMax

35!

So, lets talk birthday.

I am 35! Whew. I remembered when I was turning 30, and was so stressed about the things I had yet to accomplish before I turned that “Big Age” but I had planned this epic birthday scavenger tour, with different points, and then Mother Nature dumped over ten inches of snow in NYC, and I wasn’t able to execute the plan. Well I did, but I was the only one on the tour. I say that to say, the stress was gone, and I was able to enjoy my birthday, even if it was solo.

This year my plans were very last minute, very off the cuff. All I knew, I didn’t want to Celebrate in Chicago. So I spent two weeks in warm temperatures, having the time of my life. Mexico City, Miami & Orlando. The time in Mex was spent, in nature, with delicious foods … EVERYDAY! Promise I will be more consistent with my Spanish! Miami was the Beach. Thats it, that’s the trip. Wake up and Beach. I ate occasionally but if it wasn’t laying in the sand, I DIDNT WANT IT! Orlando was spent with old friends, creating new ones … and theme parks!

Biggest Life Lesson for 35? Go where the Love is felt and bask in it!

Tristan J.

P.S. My Actual Birthday, January 23, was spent in New York, indulging in Dinner & Donuts. And it was … Perfection.

Carnival ’21

As we all know, Carnival was cancelled this year, but that hasn’t stopped me from listening, no BLASTING Soca and other traditional carnival music! Spotify has a mix, probably has plenty of mixes, but this Carnival mix makes me forget who and where I am at times. Yall know I be rocking on the train, but Chicago trains are a bit more conservative than NYC in terms of dancing. There’s no showtime ever!

My obsessive personality has me listening to the same song, about forty times in a row. “Fallin” by KES the band. So when people say, this summer they are going to summer like they’ve never summered before … well this will be my theme song!

Please Listen!

Tristan Jonez

Pretzels?

Guess who’s back at work?

Of Course, Me. I don’t know if its because I haven’t been flying in over 290 days, but I am always so tired. I find myself, no my body screaming for the bed as soon as the last passenger steps off the aircraft. However, even with the federal mask mandate in place, its a pleasure to fly. Although I did have one flight, Vegas to Chicago, that made me reconsider being a flight attendant. Then, after a few drinks, I remembered I like not knowing the price of a airplane ticket, and Italy looks great on me. I’ve been flight leader twice, and with all that’s currently going on in life, thats the position thats for me. Until I find my groove being back in the cabin, I think I’ll continue being flight lead.

With being off for so many days, It is taking me a bit of time to reclaim myself with my own little quirks, but I’m taking it trip by trip. Not that I do anyway, I haven’t filled my board with mad trips, so I can slowly find what works for me now. When my body needs to rest, I need to make sure I have the days off to accommodate her.

Tristan J.

Tribe

“You cant force anyone into being anything other than themselves.”

Today, Well yesterday, I had a conversation with my sibling, and later on, playing back the conversation, I realized I cant make anyone do anything! Not that I thought I could. But you know how you believe that if you do more of what you want in return, that they would get it, and be what’s wanted, will be returned? We KNOW it doesn’t work that way, I know it doesn’t but I was selfish in that regard. A person will only do what they want, AND if they aren’t doing that thing … then they don’t want to.

Thats why finding your tribe is such an important act of love. Finding likeminded people, who genuinely show love, or are genuinely interested in what the things you are, makes living your best life so worth it! Its like finding the most supportive bestie, who only wants to see you succeed. Who only wants to pour into you, as you pour into them. If you have a tribe, consider yourself blessed! If you are still searching for your tribe, keep looking babe, they are out there!

Happy Hunting!

Tristan Jonez

Legend

Earlier this week I watched “I am Legend” with Will Smith. Its one of the few Will Smith, I’d watch again … I can’t watch Seven Pounds. Dogs really are the most amazing creatures on this planet! Shout out to Sam. That scene always makes me tear up, she was fighting them rabid ass dogs for her owner, even at the expense of her own life. When he had to put her down, I have to pause it, and give her the respect. Unfortunately with work, I wouldn’t be able to own a pet, especially not a dog, but I really wish I could!

I don’t know If I could go three years, without seeing or talking to another human. Its incredible he didn’t lose his damn mind but he was on a mission. A Mission to save humanity. Although the movie finishes with the cure being found, I wonder, there had to be other scientist/doctors who was working on the cure as well. Were they unsuccessful, as well? Was the one vial of blood enough to truly create more of the cure? Guess we’ll never know!

Tristan Jonez.