My Vagina is the happiest she’s been in a very long time. We have become in sync with one another, how? I had to learn to listen to my body. Think about it, After eating avocados (RIP) , in some form, my body would reject it by hurting tremendously until I removed it from my body, usually by throwing it up. The vag behaves the same way.
In my early twenties, my vag was always angry with me and as a result I was frequently present at my doctors office. Of course I thought I knew ‘her’ so I didn’t pay attention when she wanted more attention. I wasn’t taking care of my body, especially my vag. When I started to limit my juice and soda intake, she became happier, the more fruits and yogurts I introduced her cause her to then be extremely overjoyed.
The September Issue of Essence has an amazing, and well informative, article on making sure your not only listening to your vagina but keeping her in the best of health.
What are some things you’ve personally done to ensure your vaginas happiness?
Jonez
Tag: women
Dating Isn’t Free
I’ve always wondered how men approach dating, how they decided where they should take a date, if they thought through how the evening would go, was any real planning involved or if they just showed up and winged the whole shit. I had a very brief conversation with a friend tonight who stated something along the lines of women only care about a man’s money, and they don’t be wanting to date a broke man. To me, there are degrees of broke so I questioned the word broke but he didn’t break down what he meant by broke.
I can ONLY speak for myself, but I don’t want to date a broke man. Broke being the inability to take US on a date, such as dinner and a movie and the like. I honestly believe myself to be a woman who likes a variety of dates, I’m extremely happy going to The MET museum, and it’s free but it does Cost to date! How will we get to know each other if I never see you interact in social settings. As a grown ass woman, with standards, I shouldn’t have to deprive myself of the activities I like to partake in because you can’t afford to participate. If I love to travel, but you hate to explore a new country, does that mean I should give up my love for travel?
Just like you should live within your mean, you should also date your wage. Perhaps there’s a girl out there that enjoys meeting up to chill, or solely talking on the phone for months at a time. I know that wouldn’t work for me. However if you are upfront with what you expect while dating, lord knows this will save everyone time and energy.
Tristan Jonez
Date X3
Are you obligated to tell the people you are dating about each other?
NOPE!
Unless you are in a relationship, you are not obligated to tell them about each other. This shouldn’t even be a question, honestly. If a man or woman wanted to be the only one then they would take the necessary steps to ensure that position. It makes me chuckle when I hear its in a ‘man’s nature’ to not be able to settle down, to HAVE to see multiple women, blah blah blah. Guess what? Eff that!
It’s funny because as I get older I want to settle down and get married BUT I am perfectly fine with dating (for now), why settle down with the first man who smiles at me? Nope, I will date as many folks as I’d like. If I am seeing two or three at the same time, well isn’t that what dating consists of? I used to be that girl, that would meet someone, like them, then focus only on them. Not anymore. Im going to give you whatever it is you are giving me. If you only have a few minutes a day for me, then thats what will be given to you. No more investing time in a person, if they are neglecting to do the same in return.
Tristan Jonez.
The Perfect Kast
Yesterday, I came across the Podcast, “The Perfect Kast” after they liked one of my photos on Instagram. I listened to episode 31:Black in Love, which was their Valentine’s Day podcast, and it was pleasantly entertaining. The host; Benji the prophet and J Leaux made listening, sort of an interactive experience for me. I found myself talking back to them, as if I was a part of the conversation. I laughed throughout, I cursed them out as well. The two host did not sensor themselves when chatting about interactions between men and women. They both took ownership of their asshole-ishness, as well as their sensitive nature when it came up. I respect that they held no punches, none. They expressed themselves throughly, and at times the two hosts, Benji and J Leaux, battled each other about what was the correct course of action to the question that was being answered. I definitely had lots to say during the entire podcast. I enjoyed that they reached out and had two females, Jazzy the Jewel and Miss Nikki, bring their prospective. Although I believe men are most times stupid in their behavior and logic it was refreshing to hear what two blk men had to say about love and relationships.
Luckily for me, listening to this episode gave me a lot of inspiration for content for my own site. Don’t take my word for it, go check out The Perfect Kast on Instagram, iTunes and Sound Cloud… Download it now!
Tristan Jonez.
Feedback
As a writer, I am still trying to find my lane. I know that I can write just about anything but I don’t want to. I’m looking to further my portfolio but by writing pieces that I’m passionate about, things that actually matter to me. I’ve always been interested in the interactions between men and women, whether as friends or more. Eventually I hope to further my education by studying the psychology of people.
I believe by March, I will focus solely on the interaction between both sexes and my writing will reflect that. I know there are millions of folks that focus on that as well, but I’m going to put my own spin on the topic. As of right now Im looking to explore different routes but as I begin to go on this journey I know my path will become clearer to me.
Shout Out to my Instagram Sis, for keeping me on my toes.
Tristan J.
You didn’t Ask
I am all for a woman doing whatever it is she feels like doing. I will always be all for a woman doing whatever she feels like doing, especially with her own body. It annoys me when folks have opinions about how and why a female is doing her. Last time I checked, nobody is asking for your opinion about the next individual. I’ve always listened to my own drum, when it came to making decisions. I am the person who has to deal with the consequences of my actions.
Since I was seventeen, I’ve been the captain of this ship, and I would like to believe I have steered her correctly. I do not have any regrets, as every single lesson, was just that, a lesson. I hope I have learned what was there for me to learn as of lately I do believe I have taken heed to those lessons. Although there are things that my friends confide in me about, all I can do is listen, If they should ask for my opinion, only then do I share my feelings.
Do you give your unsolicited advice, when not asked?
Tristan Jonez.
Jonez, Where We Going? 