Include Me Plz

This weekend I was a bit blue.

So Girls’ Trip, the movie, came out, and I wasn’t included in any of my group of friends conversation of attending. I know I am a bit of a solo dolo chick, who surely will pass on a group trip, but I love the movies! I was in my feelings of not being asked to attend, I’ve since got over that feeling but I realized that folks just want to be included in the plans that are being created. I wasn’t invited for whatever reason but I just chalk it up to people knowing I’m a dedicated workaholic.

However I do need to shout out, no #IGMOSHE, out of the friends that I do have he was the only person who invited me out to go see the movie, even though he definitely has no interest in it.

-Tristan Jonez

Unpacked.

Sometimes I honestly feel as if I don’t really have anyone to lean on. Better yet, I don’t feel as if I can unpack all the shit that weighs me down to someone and have them be equal parts understanding, and non judgmental. Basically I need me a ‘me’. I’ve perfected the art of being a friend, and I hate myself a lil for it. I wonder if I was less of a friend, if I would have more folks who appreciate me. I check up with people who I haven’t heard from in a while. I reach out when something seems off about their behavior, especially on social media. If I was needed I would drop everything to be there in person, if thats what it took to get them back to 100% I feel as if I am an after thought, like oh right, I should’ve invited T, or damn I forgot to call T about this event. If I went missing, besides my coworkers, I wonder if anyone would know notice. We have to start being better people to one another, be there for those that are there for us. Im often alone with my thoughts, that I had no choice but to love myself, if I didn’t I would’ve been lost my fuking mind.

I’m learning to unpack for myself. I write the things that I feel are needed to unpack, then I release that shit into the Universe and I move forward. I do my best to see in what areas I can improve in, and do my best to be aware when moving forward. There are days where Im unpacking similar things, but change takes time, so I don’t beat myself up. I just focus more on what I can do to bring about change.

How do you unpack?

Tristan Jonez

Win=Win

I celebrate my friends wins as my own. A win for them, is most definitely a win for me.

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been the sappy one. I’m the one that do the cards, balloons and candy for those milestone moments, and sometimes I just celebrate you. It’s my job as a friend to do everything in my power to make you feel as if you are the most valued VIP on my team. I do not take my responsibility as a friend lightly, although I have been known to casually throw around the word friend.

I have a friend that has recently graduated into becoming a flight attendant for Delta Air lines. It is said, that its harder to be a Flight Attendant for Delta Air Lines than it is to get into Harvard. I knew it was going to be a process to get her from the beginning to the end of her goal, but I was there, to provide her with encouragement and well wishes. To have a friend, you have to be a friend! So when she officially graduated, that wasn’t just a win for her, it was one for me too. It’s not always easy to find folks that you mesh with BUT when you do, My God! It’s a beautiful thing to have a tribe in which they empower you to do and be the best you can.

If you have a tribe, how do you find all of its members? And if you do not, what can I do to help? … And yes, I’m serious.

Tristan Jonez.

BFF’S

Sometimes I really act like I have no friends, and there is no one in my corner but thats the furthest thing from the truth. Although I do not see my people as frequently as I would like does not mean I have none. With that said, is the saying “Out of sight, out of mind” true? I do think that does hold some truth. When You don’t consistently see folks you tend to forget who you have, and who is there.

I am making changes as I see the things in the past hasn’t worked for me, so time to switch it up. I’ve been focusing on the people who leave my life, instead of celebrating the ones who choose to stay. My mother used to tell me if I had a good friend, that I was more than blessed, luckily for me I’m abundantly blessed.

How do you celebrate your friendships? Do you celebrate them?

Tristan Jonez

Curby

I was called Perfect. I was called Perfection.

Obviously I am far from perfect, but in someone’s eyes Im ‘It’, the epitome of what we all (most) aspire to be; perfect. I definitely took pleasure in his words. It feels good when a friend, lover, stranger, human being (whatever title) can acknowledge you or your talent! It’s an amazing thing, when someone can see way passed your flaws and still see you for who you are. Amazing things happen when you open yourself up to folks, as scary as that can be. What’s equally amazing is what can happen when you have someone in your corner rooting for you. That isn’t shy about letting you know they are cheering you on from the sidelines.

KK I appreciate our conversation last night, it definitely has my creative juices flowing this early morning. Continue to try, and everything will work in your favor. I promise.

Jonez

Personal Things.

Although I am always in somebody’s business, I do a rather remarkable job keeping my nose out of others folks business. I just can’t be bothered by some people and minding my business ensures that they do the same. Don’t get me wrong I gather inspiration from everything and everyone, however I choose not to focus on my friend’s affairs UNLESS they want their shit to be broadcasted. If that’s the case, then you better believe I am, shouting it from the rooftops.

It’s funny that I don’t put more of my business out there, but true story I am boring. I am the most boring regular super amazing chick that you are going to meet. A lot of the times, I live inside my head, the interactions that I believe are happening in real life are happening in my head. No, I am not a psycho, but I’m just an artist, so excuse me when my characters are showing.

Tristan J.