I can remember when online dating was such a taboo, when you had to lie about where and how you met the person because online dating was such a no no. I’ve been online dating and meeting folks for what seems like forever, definitely before it was on trend. At this point, I feel as if I’ve tested out every option, damn there every app. Currently I was testing out the app Bumble, and this was after vowing to not attempt to date from online. I do appreciate the two other bumble options which are Bumble BFF and Bumble Biz, as I’ve ‘meet’ some interesting people. The catch with Bumble, it’s the female who initiates the interaction after both parties have swiped right on each other signifying they are interested. My only grip with that, is I’ve found that men are not interested enough in me to hold a conversation, after they’ve ‘connected’ with me. Personally, I do like when a man approaches me, cuz then I knew he is somewhat interested.
However I think I am going to delete Bumble, or possibly just keep it and use it as a tool to meet new BFF’s. Either way, dating isn’t for me anymore.
One of my favorite movies, in life. Brown Sugar. Sidney (Sid) and Andre (Dre), met through hip hop, then fell in love cuz of hip hop. I knew a real life Sid and Dre, except they didn’t have the happy ending, and they never would.
Lets call the real life couple, Tiff and J. They bonded over life, over sarcasm, over living. Life was better and brighter because they had each other. Word is bond, shorty was tight. When J found a new restaurant, it was Tiff who he called to experience it with. When Tiff needed a break from everyday life’s annoyance, it was J who she called. A friendship could not have been any more perfect, THEN love ruined it.
When it was revealed, that J was in love, Tiff tried to make herself feel something she didn’t at the time. The friendship took a dive, it crashed and burned. Time heals all wounds, but it could not heal this. Feelings were already hurt, so J moved on, gets engaged, has a child. But you never forget the girl that set your heart on fire, in all ways.
I thought we would be tight forever. Instead of having a maid of honor, he would be my best man. Never a secret, everything was laid on the line, cuz secrets couldn’t exist between my best friend and I. A sense of sereneity, because trusting someone with your whole entire heart is no easy feat but once its done, its the most bliss you can experience.
Then he falls in love, and you don’t.
And because you don’t fall in love, he begins to resent you. Soon enough, its only silence, on both ends. Whoever said love doesnt complicate life, lied. You even make an attempt to reciprocate those feelings, but even more resentment, cuz its not genuine. Eventually, there’s no hello. No more peace, just a girl wishing she had her best friend back.
I celebrate my friends wins as my own. A win for them, is most definitely a win for me.
Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been the sappy one. I’m the one that do the cards, balloons and candy for those milestone moments, and sometimes I just celebrate you. It’s my job as a friend to do everything in my power to make you feel as if you are the most valued VIP on my team. I do not take my responsibility as a friend lightly, although I have been known to casually throw around the word friend.
I have a friend that has recently graduated into becoming a flight attendant for Delta Air lines. It is said, that its harder to be a Flight Attendant for Delta Air Lines than it is to get into Harvard. I knew it was going to be a process to get her from the beginning to the end of her goal, but I was there, to provide her with encouragement and well wishes. To have a friend, you have to be a friend! So when she officially graduated, that wasn’t just a win for her, it was one for me too. It’s not always easy to find folks that you mesh with BUT when you do, My God! It’s a beautiful thing to have a tribe in which they empower you to do and be the best you can.
If you have a tribe, how do you find all of its members? And if you do not, what can I do to help? … And yes, I’m serious.