Mature X2

I’m maturing quite nicely. There are times that I want to lash out on the people that have wronged me, but lately I’ve been turning the other cheek. And for some I’ve even reached out to them. We are all human beings, and continue to make mistakes, I am no exception. I know that I don’t have any pride when it comes to reaching out to folks, there are folks out here that are extremely good people. I am willing to overlook some shadiness, and move forward. Do I need them? Not necessarily, I know I can go on living my life and be just fine. But I want to be more than just fine, there are folks that I want to be friends with, that the friendship that we’ve created has had meaning. So if I have to be the bigger person and say ‘hello’ first I am okay with that.

In life, some things are worth putting your pride to the side. Have you been the bigger person recently? Let’s Chat!

Tristan J.

Unknown

I am realizing that folks are obsessed with the unknown. People are more willing to follow through the steps when they do not know what the ‘prize’ will be. I’m currently in the middle of doing my second giveaway, and I would like to believe that it is going better than my first. Obviously the first is a learning lesson, and I did learn. This time around I am playing with different ideas, and not limiting myself to thinking that because something is free they will just ‘do it’. As of today five people have entered compared to the two that entered the first time. I am just as excited to be hosting the giveaway.

My Valentine’s Day giveaway was largely in part for me being the single belle that I am, I wanted to spoil someone other than myself. Lush has always been one of my favorite stores for pampering so it just seemed like a no brainer. My objective is the same with this giveaway as the last, and the rest that are to come, I want women to use the products they are given, and block off some time for themselves to put themselves first.

Have you Entered yet, it ends today!

Tristan J.

Anyway Do it.

Even when you are scared, do it anyway.

One of my biggest flaws, I am scared of confrontation. I can write about anything but when it comes to verbally expressing my displeasure in something I clam up. I’m not sure why that is but I have a really hard time telling folks how I feel especially when I do not know how they will react. I’m also passive aggressive, I am a people pleasure for sure. I thought once I became an adult that would be the first flaw I would work on and correct. Thirty-One years and I still fear confrontation.

Today my sistergirl made me confront that fear, and guess what she is still my friend. She is still someone who I feel has my best interest at heart. Our mind has a way of turning on itself when it only has one side. I’m still horribly scared of confronting someone but it is my goal to do it anyway. I have to stop holding how I feel inside, and let others know. You just did something I do not appreciate, I need to express that. How can the other person begin to make changes if I do not say anything. Now if they don’t make changes after knowing how you feel, then they don’t give a shit about you, and you need to move the hell on.

Tristan J.

Not Mr. Nice Guy

I have an annoying habit of seeing the best in everyone. People know this about me and take advantage of me. It’s like I’m the punching bag of most folks ‘cuz as a fool I just take it. I’ve grown tired of that lifestyle as I know there are folks out there who will treat me the way I’d like to be treated.
Folks will only do what you allow, and since I’ve allowed It for so long, this is the Tristan they have gotten accustomed to. So when I’m telling them that their behavior is no longer acceptable they look as if I’ve grown seven heads. As much as I hate cutting folks off, my inner peace is shattered dealing with ‘friends’ who don’t have the same type of love for me, as I do them.
Find your tribe, and love on them wholeheartedly!
Tristan

Don’t Chase.

There are too many people out here willing to give you everything you’ve been looking for, you do not have to chase anyone for anything! What one person is not giving there are others who will go above and beyond. Find those folks. Let those folks find you. As dry as my phone currently is, I’m done chasing people. I’d rather have a dry ass phone then have to deal with nonsense, especially from a grown up.
If y’all didn’t notice I’m trying to glow up. Anything less than that is NOT for me. I’m trying this new routine where I put myself first and anyone willing to be apart of my World will respect that, and place themselves where needed.
Tristan

Short

Yesterday

I found out a friend of mine past away and the first thing I thought was did I tell him I loved him. Did he know he was as special to me as I was to him. I’m sadden by this event.

Love on the folks while they are here because once they are gone you are left with the thoughts of all the things you could’ve and should’ve did while they were here.

Live this life with no regrets.

I love you Darrell.

Tristan.