Unknown

I am realizing that folks are obsessed with the unknown. People are more willing to follow through the steps when they do not know what the ‘prize’ will be. I’m currently in the middle of doing my second giveaway, and I would like to believe that it is going better than my first. Obviously the first is a learning lesson, and I did learn. This time around I am playing with different ideas, and not limiting myself to thinking that because something is free they will just ‘do it’. As of today five people have entered compared to the two that entered the first time. I am just as excited to be hosting the giveaway.

My Valentine’s Day giveaway was largely in part for me being the single belle that I am, I wanted to spoil someone other than myself. Lush has always been one of my favorite stores for pampering so it just seemed like a no brainer. My objective is the same with this giveaway as the last, and the rest that are to come, I want women to use the products they are given, and block off some time for themselves to put themselves first.

Have you Entered yet, it ends today!

Tristan J.

Time to Plan

Do you believe in Revenge?

Never mind Karma, at this point in the conversation, karma doesn’t exist. If you could get revenge on someone who has wronged you, would you? I’ve been thinking about this all day, and I believe that I am not mature enough to not get revenge if the opportunity came. Most times when folks do me dirty I just write them off and keep it moving but I would definitely use the opportunity to give revenge on those folks who have hurt me.

Remember the tv series Revenge? Now that takes commitment to devote that much time, energy and effort into getting back at someone who wronged you. The steps that were put into place, the time dedicated could have been out to better use like finding your happy.

If you had the chance would you plan your revenge?

Tristan J

No More Single

Am I allowed to say, out loud, that I’m tired of being single? That I’m super over not having a husband? I know I just jumped over having a boyfriend, but it’s true I am tired of being single. Single is boring! Now I know why folks be cuffing’ for the winter, although I’m not looking for a warm body, having someone who I can actually communicate with. I can’t tell you how many days I look at my phone for someone to speak to, and I end up opening an app to play a game. There’s no one I want to speak to, there was one guy but thats’ a dub.

I didn’t realize I’ve been single for a year, this month. I have survived one whole year without being with the man I thought was going to be my last. I have made it! And I do not regret my decision to separate one bit. Granted I’m going through my bs of being single, for right now, but my guy is lost getting to me. I think its all the traveling I do, he’s not sure what city he should go to so he can sweep me off my feet. (Cute Right?)

Jonez.

Accountability

I created a vision board once, and I’ll never make another again. For me, it doesn’t work. I do not need a constant visual reminder of my goals, that’s what my brain is for. I’d rather have an accountability partner, someone who takes on my goals as their own. I am not looking for someone to do the work for me, but someone who is as creative as I am, someone who wants to see me succeed as much I do. It’s funny I am an accountability partner to a few without even trying. There’s nothing more that I want for you, but to see you reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.

How do you go about finding an accountability partner? I want to believe those are your friends, your go to girls/boys. But what do you do if you don’t have those types of friendships with anyone? My advice, use social media to your advantage. I’ll write more on this later. But for now, write down the areas you would like to have an accountability partner, like fitness, healthy, making more money, etc and assign the folks you do know to helping you reach your maximum peak.

Tristan J.

Feedback

As a writer, I am still trying to find my lane. I know that I can write just about anything but I don’t want to. I’m looking to further my portfolio but by writing pieces that I’m passionate about, things that actually matter to me. I’ve always been interested in the interactions between men and women, whether as friends or more. Eventually I hope to further my education by studying the psychology of people.

I believe by March, I will focus solely on the interaction between both sexes and my writing will reflect that. I know there are millions of folks that focus on that as well, but I’m going to put my own spin on the topic. As of right now Im looking to explore different routes but as I begin to go on this journey I know my path will become clearer to me.

Shout Out to my Instagram Sis, for keeping me on my toes.

Tristan J.

Anyway Do it.

Even when you are scared, do it anyway.

One of my biggest flaws, I am scared of confrontation. I can write about anything but when it comes to verbally expressing my displeasure in something I clam up. I’m not sure why that is but I have a really hard time telling folks how I feel especially when I do not know how they will react. I’m also passive aggressive, I am a people pleasure for sure. I thought once I became an adult that would be the first flaw I would work on and correct. Thirty-One years and I still fear confrontation.

Today my sistergirl made me confront that fear, and guess what she is still my friend. She is still someone who I feel has my best interest at heart. Our mind has a way of turning on itself when it only has one side. I’m still horribly scared of confronting someone but it is my goal to do it anyway. I have to stop holding how I feel inside, and let others know. You just did something I do not appreciate, I need to express that. How can the other person begin to make changes if I do not say anything. Now if they don’t make changes after knowing how you feel, then they don’t give a shit about you, and you need to move the hell on.

Tristan J.

Kiddos

I’d rather not date a man with kids. Im not sure if it’s a hard no, but its defintely a situation I would like to avoid. My exboyfriend has a son, and since we was together for five years, I spent some of my time getting to know his son as well. There wasn’t a way around that especially since we lived together and all. I grew attached, so even though I am not with my ex anymore, my relationship with his child ends as well. A double blow!

I love kids. They are my favorite, but what happens when we’ve grown close? Even though folks always say everyone have kids these days, I am sure a man without children will cross my path. Until then…

Jonez.

Take this L

Think for yourself.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been friends with folks, or thought I was friends with folks, and they switch up. Since I spend the majority of my time at work, thats where most of my interactions take place. I know I have to stop using the word, ‘friends’, with these people but its my go to word. These people are NOT my friends, they are just people whom I like well enough to pass the time with while at work. To be fair, there are a handful, five, of people who are genuine human beings, but the rest, nope.

I am cordial to EVERYONE! Even if you are not someone who I deal with, or like personally, I will still greet you. Now if I greet you and you fail to respond, your done. I do not need to kiss anyone’s ass to make them like me, I love me and thats more than enough. I have my moments where I can be petty but I don’t feel the need to bring that side out unless you need a reality check about who I am.

I can be cool with you and your friend not be cool with me. Thats ok. Its none of my concern, the friendship you have with them over there. If you have no issue with me, and I none with you, you can still Kiki with me. Its not causing no static with that other friend. Get to know me for yourself! Your friend could just be a hater, cuz Im doing my thing, staying in my own lane, while trying to branch into others. So Eff your friend, and matter fact Eff you too.

Im one of the coolest chicks you’d ever meet. You’re replaceable, I’m NOT!

Tristan Jonez.

Art Street.

Valentine Day Slay

Since I am single this year for Valentine’s Day I was thinking about doing some sort of giveaway, but Im not exactly sure what I should actually give away. Right now I’m toying with creating an amazing bathcocktail with the assistance of Lush Cosmetics or possibly creating a date, at one of my favorite dessert spots. My first giveaway wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be. I mean, its Free! Everyone should be jumping at the idea of a gratis… this time around I think I will market it differently. Really use my brain, for poppin’ out of the box ideas.

I was toying with the idea of possibly opening up the giveaway to men but Im still on the fence because I want to first brand myself with the empowerment of women. After I’ve made my stance abundantly clear then I want to brand out to my fellas and include them. However I think for the next few months I will be rocking out with the ladies!

Hey Ladies!!

Jonez.

You didn’t Ask

I am all for a woman doing whatever it is she feels like doing. I will always be all for a woman doing whatever she feels like doing, especially with her own body. It annoys me when folks have opinions about how and why a female is doing her. Last time I checked, nobody is asking for your opinion about the next individual. I’ve always listened to my own drum, when it came to making decisions. I am the person who has to deal with the consequences of my actions.

Since I was seventeen, I’ve been the captain of this ship, and I would like to believe I have steered her correctly. I do not have any regrets, as every single lesson, was just that, a lesson. I hope I have learned what was there for me to learn as of lately I do believe I have taken heed to those lessons. Although there are things that my friends confide in me about, all I can do is listen, If they should ask for my opinion, only then do I share my feelings.

Do you give your unsolicited advice, when not asked?

Tristan Jonez.

Whine on me.

I so NEED to go to a Jamaican basement party. I’m currently listening to Tory Lanez – LUV and its one of my favorite songs. It takes me back to my younger days when I was in a different club every weekend, getting my young life on. I miss how the bass would thump in your ear, hours after you had left. I miss getting dressed for a night on the town, feeling that electricity in the air because you knew it was going to be an amazing evening.

Who is ready for a steelie basement party?

Jonez.