Vlogger?

For the past two months, I’ve been documenting my journey moving from Dallas back to Chicago. What started out as a way to use all of my bath products, turned into my vlogging of essentially everyday activities. It’s funny how second nature recording has become, but its not something that’s done all day, everyday. I posted the first video, I now have thirty-seven videos, and there’s still twenty days left before I am fully moved out.

I was, and if I’m being honest, still nervous about the videos. Lord knows, people are so damn mean, that its hard to put yourself out there and not really know what to expect. However I threw caution to the wind, and dropped the video. I’ve worked hard, and I’ve gotten much better with my editing, and it deserved to be out in the World.

2020 has taught me, Do it, and Do it Now!

Trstn Jnz

trigger warning

Thats what folks need to start posting PRIOR to uploading something that will trigger us all. Sharing and Resharing a video or a photo, of the death of a Black man, cant be healthy for us, especially for Black folks. Although I might have been fully sane to begin with, I’m In a weird space between loosing or keeping my sanity. When I close my eyes, I can not get the imagery out of my head. I never want to become accustom to the death of Black folks by the Police. NEVER!

These past few days have been so heavy, its hard to want to get out of the bed. However in spite of a global pandemic and racial uprisings/liberation, you still have to find a way to continue on. Since I am not physically joining the fight, Ive donated to the Freedom Fund so I can financially assist those who are. Violence seems to be the only language they understand, so speak fluently!

Power to the People!

Tristan Jonez

Once Upon A Cuba

I. Tour Guide Boyfriend.

So, picture this, its day one in Cuba, you have literally twenty minutes ago checked into your air bnb, and you are so excited, you are ignoring the urge to take a nap, so you can jump right into Cuba. Well, that was me. I was so excited to get outside, I couldn’t be bothered with resting before exploring. After a few wrong turns, and a walking thru someone’s neighborhood, I found my way into plaza vieja, which would be my favorite place in Havana.

Short Story shorter, I ended up meeting my tour guide boyfriend. My beau showed me all around Havana, pointing out special statues, while giving me the full history on Cuba. He also, was my personal photographer, we spent about five hours together. It was my introduction to Havana, with some spaces that was for locals only. A perfect gentleman, super sweet, and we were able to toggle between English and Spanish. If I had written it for myself, I doubt I could’ve worked that perfectly.

Brace yourself … Theres more to come.

Jonez.

“What do you like to do for fun?”

I fucking hate that question! Seriously, is there anything else you can ask? My Answer is usually generic, something along the lines of ‘I’m all about travel, the arts, and most definitely food’. I love it when a man, can just hold a conversation, I don’t need twenty one questions. This is the only time I am go with the flow, I allow the conversation to go wherever it may go. I like when a man knows how to navigate his way through a conversation.

Tristan Jonez

Cuba

I just realized, We did not get a chance to fully chat about Cuba. I know, I know, I said I wasn’t going to share ANYTHING with ANYONE about my time in now my absolutely favorite place but I think I can share a few stories with y’all. First and Foremost, I had the most wonderful time, my birthday was FULLY celebrated. As usual I managed to walk everywhere, and get a real feel for the local culture, to appreciate the people, and the food. To truly appreciate the hustle the Cuba has, that I’ve yet to see anywhere. During this trip, I kept a diary, basically writing to my mother everyday. An array of emotion was felt, and although I cried, a lot, it was such an experience.

Please Relax as we explore Cuba … Together.

Tristan Jonez.

34 going on

I promise I am trying not to fret over my age. I am also trying not to let my age dictate what life milestones I should be reaching. Just to let my life be what it is, be what it will, and enjoy each step of the way but I cant help but to think what does the future hold for me. Will I get married? Do I actually want to be married? Kids? A Kid? Continue to travel the World? Buy property? What is it that I want? And even in the question of what do I want, Will I know it, once it’s in my view?

As you grow older, How has life milestones affected your judgement?

Tristan Jonez.

(Ex) Friends

Can you be friends with an Ex?

In my younger dating years, I was able to keep it cute and cordial with folks who previously had the pleasure of my company. However, now, No I wouldn’t want to be friends with my ex. Not real friends anyway, and if we have to filter out the things we’d say, why bother? If you MUST be friends with an ex, how did it end? I’m sure that would factor if you even want to be friends, were you just better as friends? Did y’all start as friends? Would the friendship be restricted to just texting and chatting on the phone? Would y’all go out? Ah, Way too many questions, and somewhere in there, I’m sure is a grey and murky area. Why even go thru the hassle of attempting friendship?

In my own defense, I am cool with a handful of folks that I’ve dated. But I would never invest time into them as a potential partner, again, I also wouldn’t physically go out with them to ‘catch up’. I’d respond if they texted, but I wouldn’t reach out. So I guess, No I wouldn’t be friends with an Ex.

I don’t tend to reread books, I already know the ending.

Tristan Jonez.

Sex And the city

I don’t know if Sex and the City, television series, is supposed to be binged but besides the occasional one liner, these four women are annoying af. Well, Samantha Jones doesn’t really annoy me, but Charlotte, Carrie and Miranda, OMG, HELP ME! I just started season four, and I am not sure I’m going to be able to get through the rest of the series. Yes, this is my first time watching all the episodes, so maybe they are meant to be watched WHILE you live your daily life, and since I’m still in quarantine, I just watch them all willy nilly. Only Samantha knows exactly who she is, and lives in her purpose, and KNOWS WHO SHE IS. The rest of the ladies, put on airs, for whomever they might be dating, which never works out cuz at some point they have to be themselves.

I know, I know, I might get kicked out of womanhood for being truly annoyed by these women but I am sorry. I think I’ve learned my lesson to stretch out the time in between each episode cuz WTF! But the fashion is on point, so there’s that.

Tristan Jonez.

According to … Kiana lede

“Now you feeling guilty, that’s your conscious, Cant you tell a bitch is fed up with your nonsense.” -Kiana Lede

“I know how to be accountable for everything Ive done […] I know I fucked up once and its bad, so I cant front. Guess I’ll just smoke this blunt.” -6LACK

This is not taking account for your actions, telling me you know HOW doesn’t make you accountable for them. List them out, speak on what you’re actually taking accountability for. Giving me a line about it means absolutely nothing to me. Apologize, give me changed behavior, actually growing and working thru your fuck up is what’s going to make me stay, or possibly come back. I know your tactics so doing what you’ve done is going to work, especially when a woman is fed up.

Tristan Jonez

Lyrics from Second Chances ft. 6LACK

Karma Karma Karma

Do you believe in Karma? Do you believe that EVERYTHING comes back around? The good, the bad, and most certainly the ugly? I believe in Karma, always have and in some situations I was able to see Karma at its finest. I don’t always how long karma takes to be completed, but I live in the fact, that Karma will eventually come around. I want to think I live my life in a way, not to bring negative karma on myself but please believe Karma has exacted her revenge on me, more than once. However even in those times, You have to just live in that moment, accept what is, and move forward.

Has Karma ever impacted your life, negatively? Positively? Tell me about it.

Tristan Jonez.