The Perfect Kast


Yesterday, I came across the Podcast, “The Perfect Kast” after they liked one of my photos on Instagram. I listened to episode 31:Black in Love, which was their Valentine’s Day podcast, and it was pleasantly entertaining. The host; Benji the prophet and J Leaux made listening, sort of an interactive experience for me. I found myself talking back to them, as if I was a part of the conversation. I laughed throughout, I cursed them out as well. The two host did not sensor themselves when chatting about interactions between men and women. They both took ownership of their asshole-ishness, as well as their sensitive nature when it came up. I respect that they held no punches, none. They expressed themselves throughly, and at times the two hosts, Benji and J Leaux, battled each other about what was the correct course of action to the question that was being answered. I definitely had lots to say during the entire podcast. I enjoyed that they reached out and had two females, Jazzy the Jewel and Miss Nikki, bring their prospective. Although I believe men are most times stupid in their behavior and logic it was refreshing to hear what two blk men had to say about love and relationships.
Luckily for me, listening to this episode gave me a lot of inspiration for content for my own site. Don’t take my word for it, go check out The Perfect Kast on Instagram, iTunes and Sound Cloud… Download it now!

Tristan Jonez.

 

 

 

Bee You.

I am not sure if I spoke about this here on Tristanjonez.com, but when you are being your true genuine self, the Universe reaches out and gives you the very things you are asking for. When we finally stop trying to put on, and imitate others, thats the very moment when your flower blossoms. I want to think I am always myself, but I know there are times when I hold back for fear of coming off a wrong way to someone. I am embracing my crazy, my contradictions, my warmness and my mood swings all at the same time.

As the quote states, we are out here acting like we live more than once. The time is now to fully embrace who you are, however you are. When you start being your true, amazing self, you are opening the doors so that your tribe is able to recognize you!

Are you still looking for your tribe?

Tristan J.

Mature X2

I’m maturing quite nicely. There are times that I want to lash out on the people that have wronged me, but lately I’ve been turning the other cheek. And for some I’ve even reached out to them. We are all human beings, and continue to make mistakes, I am no exception. I know that I don’t have any pride when it comes to reaching out to folks, there are folks out here that are extremely good people. I am willing to overlook some shadiness, and move forward. Do I need them? Not necessarily, I know I can go on living my life and be just fine. But I want to be more than just fine, there are folks that I want to be friends with, that the friendship that we’ve created has had meaning. So if I have to be the bigger person and say ‘hello’ first I am okay with that.

In life, some things are worth putting your pride to the side. Have you been the bigger person recently? Let’s Chat!

Tristan J.

T. Jonez pt.1

Disclaimer.

I am a writer. I write shit. Most of the time I am true to the events as they happened. Other  times I … write. My life is not as dramatic as I write. I do apologize if it seems as if I am not being genuine but I assure you I am. Keep in mind I wrote a book that was largely based on me and there were times when I had to change events.

So to all the folks who come across Tristan Jonez, just know she is real, she’s somewhere within me, Tiffany. Either way, why write about my real life, when the real stories lies within in TJonez?

Jonez.

Release Now

Written on 2/11 at 1:03a

I think I am becoming way to dependant on my cellular device. It is the first thing I reach for in the morning and the last thing I put down in the evening. I think I am going on a cell phone detox for today. I know my main function for my phone is to grow my ‘business’ and get more folks to visit and read my website, but I am feeling like I need a little break with being so connected to the World. My brain feels like its in overload, been in overload and is begging me for a break.  It is healthy to scale back on certain tools, and this good ole cellular phone of mine, will be put down.

We will chat on Sunday, when I’ve completed my detox.

Tristan J.

 

Unknown

I am realizing that folks are obsessed with the unknown. People are more willing to follow through the steps when they do not know what the ‘prize’ will be. I’m currently in the middle of doing my second giveaway, and I would like to believe that it is going better than my first. Obviously the first is a learning lesson, and I did learn. This time around I am playing with different ideas, and not limiting myself to thinking that because something is free they will just ‘do it’. As of today five people have entered compared to the two that entered the first time. I am just as excited to be hosting the giveaway.

My Valentine’s Day giveaway was largely in part for me being the single belle that I am, I wanted to spoil someone other than myself. Lush has always been one of my favorite stores for pampering so it just seemed like a no brainer. My objective is the same with this giveaway as the last, and the rest that are to come, I want women to use the products they are given, and block off some time for themselves to put themselves first.

Have you Entered yet, it ends today!

Tristan J.

Time to Plan

Do you believe in Revenge?

Never mind Karma, at this point in the conversation, karma doesn’t exist. If you could get revenge on someone who has wronged you, would you? I’ve been thinking about this all day, and I believe that I am not mature enough to not get revenge if the opportunity came. Most times when folks do me dirty I just write them off and keep it moving but I would definitely use the opportunity to give revenge on those folks who have hurt me.

Remember the tv series Revenge? Now that takes commitment to devote that much time, energy and effort into getting back at someone who wronged you. The steps that were put into place, the time dedicated could have been out to better use like finding your happy.

If you had the chance would you plan your revenge?

Tristan J

No More Single

Am I allowed to say, out loud, that I’m tired of being single? That I’m super over not having a husband? I know I just jumped over having a boyfriend, but it’s true I am tired of being single. Single is boring! Now I know why folks be cuffing’ for the winter, although I’m not looking for a warm body, having someone who I can actually communicate with. I can’t tell you how many days I look at my phone for someone to speak to, and I end up opening an app to play a game. There’s no one I want to speak to, there was one guy but thats’ a dub.

I didn’t realize I’ve been single for a year, this month. I have survived one whole year without being with the man I thought was going to be my last. I have made it! And I do not regret my decision to separate one bit. Granted I’m going through my bs of being single, for right now, but my guy is lost getting to me. I think its all the traveling I do, he’s not sure what city he should go to so he can sweep me off my feet. (Cute Right?)

Jonez.

Accountability

I created a vision board once, and I’ll never make another again. For me, it doesn’t work. I do not need a constant visual reminder of my goals, that’s what my brain is for. I’d rather have an accountability partner, someone who takes on my goals as their own. I am not looking for someone to do the work for me, but someone who is as creative as I am, someone who wants to see me succeed as much I do. It’s funny I am an accountability partner to a few without even trying. There’s nothing more that I want for you, but to see you reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.

How do you go about finding an accountability partner? I want to believe those are your friends, your go to girls/boys. But what do you do if you don’t have those types of friendships with anyone? My advice, use social media to your advantage. I’ll write more on this later. But for now, write down the areas you would like to have an accountability partner, like fitness, healthy, making more money, etc and assign the folks you do know to helping you reach your maximum peak.

Tristan J.

Feedback

As a writer, I am still trying to find my lane. I know that I can write just about anything but I don’t want to. I’m looking to further my portfolio but by writing pieces that I’m passionate about, things that actually matter to me. I’ve always been interested in the interactions between men and women, whether as friends or more. Eventually I hope to further my education by studying the psychology of people.

I believe by March, I will focus solely on the interaction between both sexes and my writing will reflect that. I know there are millions of folks that focus on that as well, but I’m going to put my own spin on the topic. As of right now Im looking to explore different routes but as I begin to go on this journey I know my path will become clearer to me.

Shout Out to my Instagram Sis, for keeping me on my toes.

Tristan J.

Anyway Do it.

Even when you are scared, do it anyway.

One of my biggest flaws, I am scared of confrontation. I can write about anything but when it comes to verbally expressing my displeasure in something I clam up. I’m not sure why that is but I have a really hard time telling folks how I feel especially when I do not know how they will react. I’m also passive aggressive, I am a people pleasure for sure. I thought once I became an adult that would be the first flaw I would work on and correct. Thirty-One years and I still fear confrontation.

Today my sistergirl made me confront that fear, and guess what she is still my friend. She is still someone who I feel has my best interest at heart. Our mind has a way of turning on itself when it only has one side. I’m still horribly scared of confronting someone but it is my goal to do it anyway. I have to stop holding how I feel inside, and let others know. You just did something I do not appreciate, I need to express that. How can the other person begin to make changes if I do not say anything. Now if they don’t make changes after knowing how you feel, then they don’t give a shit about you, and you need to move the hell on.

Tristan J.

Kiddos

I’d rather not date a man with kids. Im not sure if it’s a hard no, but its defintely a situation I would like to avoid. My exboyfriend has a son, and since we was together for five years, I spent some of my time getting to know his son as well. There wasn’t a way around that especially since we lived together and all. I grew attached, so even though I am not with my ex anymore, my relationship with his child ends as well. A double blow!

I love kids. They are my favorite, but what happens when we’ve grown close? Even though folks always say everyone have kids these days, I am sure a man without children will cross my path. Until then…

Jonez.