Tub dub dub

Please don’t think I’m crazy but I believe I am about to place myself on a mission to find the best tub for a in “house” spa experience. Most folks believe hotel tubs/jucuzzis are disgusting but that’s all a matter of opinion. I usually bring a small travel sized bottle of awesome so I can clean the tub before I sit my pum pum down! (Laughing)

My usual go to shoppe is Lush Cosmetics, I live for that brand! And I even worked there once in my life. Everything just smells devine but it’s not always great for my plumbing. So in an effort to not only create a spa like experience, but to save my plumbing, I’m on a mission. I will update you guys often, about the location and the products used to create such a #selfcare space.

Tristan Jonez

*Image swiped from Pinterest.

DaddyDuties

I can’t remember the last time I had a conversation with my dad. And I can’t tell when the next time we will have one. Well, Father’s Day and his birthday is coming up so I will reach out via text probably. Do you ever get tired of going the extra mile for someone, and they doing the very basic of things for you? Well that’s exactly how I feel about my father. I sometimes wonder If I am the parent, and he is my child. There definitely is a disconnect there, because I know the way I’d like to be parented, and when I try to explain that to my father, he seems to believe he knows more about me, than I do. And because of his will to not change his parenting style, we will continue to not chat as often.

In my defense, I do not ask my father for anything. The only thing I require is love. There is nothing else I would like to have from my father. I’ve been taking care of myself for this long, without his help, so I think I can continue to manage. I don’t want to be a disrespectful kid, but I sometimes want to ask him, if he thinks he is a good parent. If he believes he’s done all he could to ensure I would have the best chance at life. In my opinion he… well my opinion doesn’t matter. Wherever I lack, I make up in other areas, until I am able to work on where I lack. Even though my father isn’t there in a way, that benefits me, I am grateful that I had a mother who was.

Tristan Jonez

One?Eight?

On average, about six, then I give one more to see if the person has learned from the six chances that was given previously. In my opinion after the first second chance, it just goes down hill from there. If respect isn’t the main factor then the amount of chances given will not matter either.

To be honest, second chances aren’t only given when someone has cheated. For the record, you don’t get a pass for cheating. We will be done. When someone doesn’t respect your word, after being told how it affects you, is grounds to keep it moving. If I make the decision to allow you back into my World and you continue to do the same shit, then you gotta go. Nobody has ever had to tell me something twice, so why do I need to constantly remind you of the things that aren’t acceptable? Nope, not doing it.

Tristan.

Grown.

Growing up I never felt the need to prove anything to anyone but myself. When I became an adult, I still felt only the need to do the things I wanted to do. I have never let what someone else was doing dictate what I was or was not going to do. I’m grateful that I always knew I had a mind of my own, and I used it!

I do believe folks growing up now, have these chips on their shoulder as to what they believe someone owes them. I hate to be the one to break it to you guys, but NOBODY OWES YOU ANYTHING! Everything that you think might be owed to you, let it go. Chuck it up, and believe that Karma will return anything that wasn’t given at the time you felt you deserved. I find, in my humble opinion, that so many ‘kids’ are in such a rush to do things they believe automatically makes them ‘grown’. Listen, I’ve never considered myself grown as much as I did an adult, but being able to bring dudes into your crib doesn’t make you an adult. Being able to come and go as you please, as doesn’t make you an adult. Being able to problem solve, being able to communicate effectively, being able to apologize for your actions, those are some of the traits that make you an adult.

I can’t tell you how much I was such in a rush to grow up, but now that I am here, I am wishing I was back in middle school. Where my biggest task was completing my homework on time. Guys and Gals, please don’t be in such a rush, Enjoy where are currently in Life, as it goes by so quickly!

Tristan Jonez.

Assaulted

Today I saw the man that assaulted me. The man who I dated, who I thought respected me, who I believed was my friend first. I saw him today, and for a moment it took me back to that place where he violated me. For a moment I didn’t have the strength or courage to speak, I didn’t want to speak. It’s amazing how many emotions you can feel in a moment, or how a moment can stretch longer than humanly possible. I was frozen in that moment until he spoke, he spoke! First anger, then calmness I felt.

How dare this man go on as if he didn’t hurt me in the most intimate way? How dare he get out of this unchanged?

Understanding I’m not what has happened to me. I Can choose, I will choose, and I choose not to allow him to create chaos within me. He does not have permission to have my body, or my mind. What he can have is my silence, he doesn’t get to set this straight with his conscience.

As for me in that one moment I found my strength.

Tristan J.

CoffeeShop (Amsterdam)

So when I was invited to tag along in Amsterdam, of course I jumped on that! I found a way to make it work with my schedule, although I would be on the West Coast at the time. Ending my evening in Vegas the night before after drinking and partying was quite a feat but I managed to pull it off, especially being the flight was ten hours! Ouch!

Prior to going to Amsterdam, every time I thought about it, my mind instantly went to The Red Light District, and being able to purchase weed. I got to experience both, and my reaction surprised myself. Went we went to the Red Light District, it was weird seeing woman showcase their ‘goods’ so freely, but it was oddly refreshing. Im not known for judging but I felt so much woman empowerment at the notion of a woman being able to do whatever she pleased with her body. Kudos Ladies!

Now Marijuana was all over. And because it was everywhere, it took the shame away. Being able to walk into, several many, shops and light up, is priceless. I must admit, I went into a coffeeshoppe, and inhaled. (Laughing) Growing up I never, (And still don’t) feel the pressures to smoke bud, its just not my thing but when in Rome… YES, I smoked marijuana in Amsterdam. Not necessarily on my bucket list, but its a story to tell the kiddos! Amsterdam was such a change of pace from the craziness that was Vegas.

IF you ever get the opportunity to travel to Amsterdam, don’t delay, just do it!

Jonez.

Sick As Shtt

Now I don’t get sick often but when I do, it hits me like a plaque. I definitely feel like I am fighting for my life! Okay, so I am a bit dramatic, but being sick truly feels like the final knockout punch. I knew I was going to get sick when I left work on Sunday, there was that tickle in my throat, but I didn’t get home fast enough to knock it out. So when I woke up on Monday morning, I could barely see, my vision was blurred, and my throat felt like it was on fire! Being the big baby I am, the tears were soon to follow. The hardest thing about being sick, I have to take care of myself. Long gone are the days where a man, would do more than send an occasional text message. What happened to checking in? Making sure I am at least still alive? Hmph!

So today is day two, and Im feeling better than I did on day one. I was able to go outside, pick up some items to make my version of chicken soup. Shout out to my coworkers, cuz they made sure to check in with me. I can’t stress enough, its the little things that means more than my words could ever describe. I am still in bed, drinking peppermint tea with ginger, and rubbing Vicks all of me. One way or another I will be better… And soon!

Jonez.

Life’s Wonders

Do you ever wonder about the lives that are being lived without you?

Sometimes when Im daydreaming, I think about the folks who’s World I was apart of way back when. I’ve lived in a few different states, and I think about people I got to know, and I folks who I lost touch with. I wonder if they are thinking of me in that same moment, and if they are, what are they thinking about exactly? There isn’t a relationship I walked away from that I would like to revisit, but to be able to glimpse into their current lives would be a treat. Although I wish anyone I’ve dated, an amazing life, I always wonder how my exit from their lives changed their lives. If I was the one holding them back from being great, or If I was the glue holding them together.

Tristan Jonez.

The Powerful Tool.

Our mind is the most powerful tool we have, please utilize it! Manifestation is as real as the air we breathe, as real as the water we drink, as real as the God you believe in.

For the past few days, I’ve been thinking about someone I knew when I was seventeen. I visualized his face, I heard his voice in my head, I pictured him in front of me. I didn’t say his name out loud to anyone, and after that moment I continued on with my day. You know business as usual. Well tonight I received a message from said someone. Although I whole heartily believe in my thoughts being able to manifest ANYTHING I can think of, my thoughts have never taken shape as quickly as it did in this instance.

If I was ever looking for one, that was my sign. The sign that told me, Tristan, you got this! Everything you are trying to accomplish, you most definitely will kill that shit. The only requirement is to believe that you CAN kill it, believe that its already yours and it is. All it takes is one moment, to know you are on the right path, even when your ass is in the bushes on the other side of the street. Get your self up, and go to where you need to be!

Tristan Jonez.

Rosè Girl White

Please do NOT purchase!

In my years of drinking wine, or alcohol, this HAD to be one of the worst drinks ever. It was bitter and dry! Just an all around nasitness to the taste, I even tried to go beyond the initial taste but I’m still not interested. If you do try this (special) flavor wine, please hit me up so we can compare notes.

Jonez.

Dre/Sid

Brown Sugar.

One of my favorite movies, in life. Brown Sugar. Sidney (Sid) and Andre (Dre), met through hip hop, then fell in love cuz of hip hop. I knew a real life Sid and Dre, except they didn’t have the happy ending, and they never would.

Lets call the real life couple, Tiff and J. They bonded over life, over sarcasm, over living. Life was better and brighter because they had each other. Word is bond, shorty was tight. When J found a new restaurant, it was Tiff who he called to experience it with. When Tiff needed a break from everyday life’s annoyance, it was J who she called. A friendship could not have been any more perfect, THEN love ruined it.

When it was revealed, that J was in love, Tiff tried to make herself feel something she didn’t at the time. The friendship took a dive, it crashed and burned. Time heals all wounds, but it could not heal this. Feelings were already hurt, so J moved on, gets engaged, has a child. But you never forget the girl that set your heart on fire, in all ways.

Jonez.

Still not dating.

I always tell you guys that I am tired of being single, but then I’m tired of dating. So I took a few weeks/months off from dating as I just couldn’t bare to meet someone else, who wanted to waste my time. So I’ve been focusing more on traveling, and exploring the
Worldy ways of the World. However now that I am back in the US, I’m back to thinking about dating. Why cant prince incredible just fall out of the sky, in front of me, and just wisk me away in our own personal fairytale?

I am over using dating websites, such as OKCupid and EHarmony, even though I am sure someone has had success. I want to meet you and feel your vibe, that’s hard to do over the phone or internet, but no, its not impossible. However I think I’m just done with it, I was meeting folks off the internet, when it was still taboo to do so. I know we are such a community of technology, and who has the time to meet someone in person, but guess what? I’m just going to have to make the damn time!

Tristan Jonez.