Life’s Wonders

Do you ever wonder about the lives that are being lived without you?

Sometimes when Im daydreaming, I think about the folks who’s World I was apart of way back when. I’ve lived in a few different states, and I think about people I got to know, and I folks who I lost touch with. I wonder if they are thinking of me in that same moment, and if they are, what are they thinking about exactly? There isn’t a relationship I walked away from that I would like to revisit, but to be able to glimpse into their current lives would be a treat. Although I wish anyone I’ve dated, an amazing life, I always wonder how my exit from their lives changed their lives. If I was the one holding them back from being great, or If I was the glue holding them together.

Tristan Jonez.

Rosè Girl White

Please do NOT purchase!

In my years of drinking wine, or alcohol, this HAD to be one of the worst drinks ever. It was bitter and dry! Just an all around nasitness to the taste, I even tried to go beyond the initial taste but I’m still not interested. If you do try this (special) flavor wine, please hit me up so we can compare notes.

Jonez.

Dre/Sid

Brown Sugar.

One of my favorite movies, in life. Brown Sugar. Sidney (Sid) and Andre (Dre), met through hip hop, then fell in love cuz of hip hop. I knew a real life Sid and Dre, except they didn’t have the happy ending, and they never would.

Lets call the real life couple, Tiff and J. They bonded over life, over sarcasm, over living. Life was better and brighter because they had each other. Word is bond, shorty was tight. When J found a new restaurant, it was Tiff who he called to experience it with. When Tiff needed a break from everyday life’s annoyance, it was J who she called. A friendship could not have been any more perfect, THEN love ruined it.

When it was revealed, that J was in love, Tiff tried to make herself feel something she didn’t at the time. The friendship took a dive, it crashed and burned. Time heals all wounds, but it could not heal this. Feelings were already hurt, so J moved on, gets engaged, has a child. But you never forget the girl that set your heart on fire, in all ways.

Jonez.

Still not dating.

I always tell you guys that I am tired of being single, but then I’m tired of dating. So I took a few weeks/months off from dating as I just couldn’t bare to meet someone else, who wanted to waste my time. So I’ve been focusing more on traveling, and exploring the
Worldy ways of the World. However now that I am back in the US, I’m back to thinking about dating. Why cant prince incredible just fall out of the sky, in front of me, and just wisk me away in our own personal fairytale?

I am over using dating websites, such as OKCupid and EHarmony, even though I am sure someone has had success. I want to meet you and feel your vibe, that’s hard to do over the phone or internet, but no, its not impossible. However I think I’m just done with it, I was meeting folks off the internet, when it was still taboo to do so. I know we are such a community of technology, and who has the time to meet someone in person, but guess what? I’m just going to have to make the damn time!

Tristan Jonez.

Baked By Carrie

Have you ever been so proud of someone, that your heart felt like it would burst? Can I tell you about my friend, and make up artist Baked by Carrie? Carrie is one of the sweetest but silliest human beings, I’ve come across in my life! I don’t think I’ve ever had a conversation with her that didn’t have at least ten minutes of straight laughter. I could be going thru, the worst moment, and Carrie will find a way to make a joke out of it. Not only is a she a professional artist, but her talents extend to photography, and a touch of videography. Recently she entered the NYX Face Awards, with her version of an Egyptian goddess, first I was blown away! I got a sneak peak at her projected ‘face’ but that was just a rough draft, so be able to see the full finished project! MY GOD!

Carrie blew it out of the water! From the first frame, it was like pow! I’m a damn Egyptian goddess, not only will you respect me, you will bow down and kiss my damn feet. I watched the video entry, feeling like a proud momma, watching her baby take her first steps. I’ve seen the progress from beginner to where she is now, and I’m blown away. I know for sure she is going to take her artistry as far as she’d like it to go. Unfortunately she did not move on to the next round of the Awards, BUT she killed it!

Be Sure to check her out on Youtube as Baked by Carrie. Trust me, she’s worth the Watch!

Tristan Jonez.

One Night Only

I’ve finally made my way to Vegas.

For some odd reason, Vegas was not really on my list of places to go! I know Las Vegas is more than just Casinos, Shows and Pool Parties, but now that I’ve tasted the Vegas life, I am more than ready to go back! I know I say this about every single destination but I could see myself living there, Its beautiful! The airport is five minutes away from the Las Vegas Strip, but I will be sure to venture out from the sights and sounds of the main attraction. I’m always interested in what a city has to offer beyond whats presented to me.

So for this overnight trip, I stayed at the Signature at the MGM Grand. Beautiful hotel which overlooks the comings and going of the Airport. Close your eyes, and imagine the view of the runway as it lights up! Whats Vegas if you don’t crash a party or two? It was someone’s company party, and it created a night to remember. Theme was totally 80’s, with Michael Jackson, Tina Turner and Sir Elton John making their presence known! Let me not forget about the lighted robots, folks on stilts, and a preying mantis! Whatever Company that was, I would totally work for them, they put out all the stops!

Tristan Jonez.

Mother’s Day, 17.

Today is Mother’s Day.

Since my own mother died, I stopped paying attention to this particular holiday. I think I was salty that everyone else had a mother or a mother figure, and I didn’t. I haven’t celebrated Mother’s Day since my mother was alive. So today I decided I would celebrate the mother’s that I did know, including a lot of first time mothers. (Shout out to Jennifer!)I wanted them to know they were appreciated, especially by me. I know its no small feat to be able to bring life into the world.

As of today, I haven’t had the pleasure of becoming a Mother but I will when the time is right for me. For my friends/Readers, that are awesome mothers or know an amazing mother, I wish all of you the happiest of Day!

Tristan J.

Sweeeeeep

Remember Supermarket Sweep?

I remembering watching the show, telling myself when I grew up I was going to be a contestant on Supermarket Sweep. The thought of running through the aisle looking for the cash prize at the end, always made my day. In my mind, if I could just get on the show, all my dreams would come true. Well when I think, that was my only dream! Unfortunately Supermarket Sweep went off the air before I had to the chance to grow up, and be a featured guest.

I would say that I would start a petition for the show to be revamped since they seem to put ANYTHING on television, now a days. But I learned my lesson when I went so hard for the television show, The Game to come back on. When the show returned it was a horrible mess on BET! So I am just going to continue to play Supermarket Sweep when I am at my local grocery store, at least this way, I am always the winner!

Are there any games shows you wish you could be a contestant?

Tristan Jonez

Goals

So for this month, I told myself I would be doing something different with my writing, instead of only writing when something happens, I promised myself I would write every single day for this month. I’ve been told that it takes 21 days to create or break a habit, so consider this my experiment. I wanted to keep it light, so I didn’t place any specifics on what I could write about, the only requirement; I have to write, and publish whatever I wrote.

Seems simple enough as a challenge, right? Well let the writing begin.

Jonez

FYI I am a tad bit late in writing this as work spilled over, I arrived home at 2:32am, and began writing this as soon as my laptop was ready.

Dude Stop.

I want to believe I am honest in what I write, especially when it comes to information about myself. Plus folks are going to judge, so I’d rather folks judge me based on my actual truth. Since I turned 31, I’ve felt as if I have to get married, I have to have children, sooner than later, so I was making decision based of that fact. WRONG MOVE!

Recently I realized Im out here looking nuts. I’m allowing shit from men that I wouldn’t even date otherwise, dealing with BS just cuz I panicked that I would be alone. I was like well Jonez, having someone who is half decent is better than not having anyone at all. See, I was straight tripping! I had to really be honest with myself about my actions, I had to make the choice, to make myself happy long term. I left two relationships in my life because of the long term. I wasn’t wit being disrespected at 25, so I had to chat with myself cuz allowing disrespect now, wasn’t the move.

Plus Im not alone, I have you guys. Loves You.

Tristan Jonez

Stimulate My Soul.

I can’t remember the last time I made a decision for my own benefit. Every decision I’ve made in the past year or so has been for the benefit of another person. I don’t like telling folks no, as I don’t like to let anyone down. I don’t like not being there for someone else, even if it is at the cost of myself. I’ve been sick to my stomach, because I’ve been so overwhelmed with a combination of things but yet, I was still trying to put others need before my own.

One day recently I was calling everyone I knew because I needed help. I was super sick, and I wasn’t sure If I could get to my destination on my own. So I reached out to several different people, but I couldn’t get an answer from anyone. Granted, folks have the right to be busy, but it was a wake up call. I have to be in full account for how I treat myself, an empty cup isn’t of use to anyone. My cup is currently empty but I working on replenishing it but for myself this time.

What do you do to refuel? How do you put yourself first?

-Jonez

The Table.

The Vibe I got from a guy I was recently (semi) dating, is I am asking for way too much! For just a date, I have way too many requirements! For a relationship, I have way too many expectations. I do believe that I used to have expectations, which is always open for discussion, but my expectations are things that a man should practice as his daily habits.

A man should be communicating, never do I want 24hrs to go by and there is no communication. I totally get that we live in a busy world, and our schedules may not always be in sync but that’s no excuse for a lack of communication. How easy is it for a text, or a voice message? If I am always the one making the moves, the plans, then why am I with you, if I’m going to be the man in this situation? I shouldn’t be opening my own doors, but I realize this a ‘independent woman world’ so cool I’ll handle that but once again I shouldn’t have to. Without asking, you should be making me feel like the most amazing woman on the planet, just because I am with you. What happened to that? Focusing in on the one you are with, really getting to know them, their likes and dislikes? What happened to taking our time?

For a second I thought I was asking too much from the guys I was dating but when I really think about all that I have to offer, and bring to the table, I’m not asking for nearly enough.

Tristan Jonez.