Personal Things.

Although I am always in somebody’s business, I do a rather remarkable job keeping my nose out of others folks business. I just can’t be bothered by some people and minding my business ensures that they do the same. Don’t get me wrong I gather inspiration from everything and everyone, however I choose not to focus on my friend’s affairs UNLESS they want their shit to be broadcasted. If that’s the case, then you better believe I am, shouting it from the rooftops.

It’s funny that I don’t put more of my business out there, but true story I am boring. I am the most boring regular super amazing chick that you are going to meet. A lot of the times, I live inside my head, the interactions that I believe are happening in real life are happening in my head. No, I am not a psycho, but I’m just an artist, so excuse me when my characters are showing.

Tristan J.

Naked

One of my favorite photos, that I’ve ever had the pleasure of taking of myself. I also edit this photo in black and white! While I know I will never be able to recreate this exact photo, I would like to set up a session with a professional photographer, and soon. When I look at this, I see my whole self, the good and the bad. And surprisingly I love what I see!

Jonez

Groovy Baby.

There is nothing like Soul Music from the 70’s. Nothing.

As I was walking home last night, I started to feel blue, but before I could give in to the feeling completely, “Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green came on. It’s one of my absolutely favorite songs. I wasn’t around in the 70’s but whenever I listen to music from that period, I am transported back. I see myself walking through the streets of Harlem with my afro, bell bottoms and platform shoes. I would’ve loved to see Al Green performing ANYWHERE! Every song its like he’s singing only to me. He makes being in the love the most intimate act ever. Listening to Mr. Green just makes your senses alive, its like your heart has recognized him, and behaves accordingly. Either there’s an old soul lady within me, or I was born in the wrong era musically.

Is this the same for you guys? What genre just moves your soul?

Tristan Jonez.

Q&A, pt2

So I posted Q&A yesterday to the site as well as to Instagram, and to my surprise the response was if a person deems you important, or the relationship important, they will make the time to communicate with you. But on the flip side, you have to be willing to be prepared to make sacrifices, since they may not always be able to make the time, especially if their job is that demanding.

Its all in the effort! I am willing to make the sacrifice of not being able to speak to you as frequently as I would like If I believe you are making the effort to find the time to speak to me. I believe its vice versa as well. My love would be willing to create the time, if he has to, so that he can communicate with me. And I don’t always expect a phone call, if you can send a text message with just a heart, OMG, I would be exceedingly satisfied. We always say its the small things, and it truly is.

Jonez.

 

Q&A

You’re talking to a man who has a demanding job, so he doesn’t communicate as frequently as you would like, as of right now, it’s not an issue but you know if things continue they will become a problem.

Question, Do you advise him of your feelings?

Answer

I think communication is always a good thing. So being upfront should be a part of your daily routine, however it will be all in the way you tell him. You are aware he has a demanding job, so he may not have easy access to his cellular phone. Even though you may be attached to your phone, he may not feel the same about his device as you do yours. If this is really a problem for you, you have to let him know, otherwise it will slowly annoy you that he doesn’t communicate as much as you’d like. Your gentleman may feel as though he IS communicating more than adequantely enough with you, and thus isn’t reaching out more during the day. Just talk to the man, find the middle ground.

Tristan Jonez.

 

Care Less/Careless

Although I was not married at the time, I had an affair.

My partner and I was on the outs, arguments daily, and just in a state of unhappiness. We were nearing the end of our relationship but was still making an ‘effort’ to be together. We had put in time, and was trying to get back to the place where we was extremely happy with one another. Something just wasn’t clicking! I had booked a trip to Chicago, as I was secretly planning on moving there, and had two interviews scheduled. During my visit to the Windy City, I went to a local lounge, for grown folks, and meet an older gentleman. During the rest of my trip, we were together often. I returned back to Chicago three more times, to check out the scenery there and to get to know this gentleman better.

I was entertaining this gentleman while I knew I had a boyfriend back in New York. Although this was wrong I did not feel remorse for my actions. Even though I was not intimate with this gentleman, I would later find out that my beau was not being as faithful as he made me believe.

T. Jonez

Act Two

Why do men wait until you no longer care, to act right? As an adult, I think I am over the games that folks play so I have no interest in participating in them. So I do let it be known that I’m feeling them, I am not super aggressive, I would rather let a man take it to that next step. I don’t feel like I need to chase you, nope. All I have to do is let you know how I feel, and you either take it from there or be like nah T, I’m just not interested in you. I can appreciate any man that tells me, straight up, that they aren’t interested.

Its funny cuz I can be feeing you until I’m not. I really think men be having this spidey sense cuz the second I’m like this dude is a dub, they want to come with the dinner date and flowers. Then get upset with me when I’m not receptive to any of that shit, cuz dude it’s too late. I’m good on you! In most cases, when I’m chatting with someone, its because they have hit ME up, if you wasn’t ready, then why you bothered? And I’m going to be sitting around wondering why they aren’t acting right.. Nah I’ll be already unto the next.

Tristan J.

Bounce that Ass.

I’m currently head over heels in love with bounce music. I’ve been fortunate enough to have been able to see Big Freedia in person at Brooklyn Bowl in 2015. However It is my goal to see Big Freedia in person in New Orleans. I think I may get that chance as she is performing in NOLA at the end of February. I’m even thinking about attending Mardi Gras this year, but I don’t actually like Bourbon Street at all. However it is something on my bucket list I want to do.

I’m currently listening to New Orleans Bounce Essentials on Spotify, Do you guys have a favorite bounce song or artist?

Tristan Jonez

Shrt & Swt

 

On the suggestion of a friend, I am going to attempt to write a short story. I am going to be way out of my comfort zone here but I will get this done. Tonight I wrote a page, and I really would like to stay up longer, but I am dirt tired. So I will pick up where I left off in the morning.

I will give you a peek into my writing world, when I write, I am only dotting down the movie that is playing in my head. My characters are living out their lives as if they are not only figments of my imagination. My characters name is Rachel and Andrew/Drew, however until the book is finished EVERYTHING is subject to change.

Jonez.

A Consumer

I’m starting to feel as if I am loosing myself within myself with the all thought consuming idea of being alone. Being alone, not being able to experience love again, not being able to experience the joy of finding out you’re having a baby, never knowing what its like to have someone look at you as if you’re the only one that matters. As much as I don’t like it, I am okay with being single. However I am not okay with ended up alone.

Am I supposed to seek? Or wait for love to find me? Depending on who you ask, will depend on the answer you receive. Then there are billions of people on the planet, how can I possibly find the person that is for me? Is there more than one person for me? Do I stay single in an attempt to date more? The bigger the pool, the more options, the more chances to pick the wrong man. And when I do ‘pick’ am I using my heart or my head?

I’m starting to understand the logic, that I may never find the one that’s looking for me.

Sadly, Tristan J.

After Break up.

I am not petty but right is right. If we break up, you have to break up with everything I put you on to while together. So that bar you like, done. That restaurant where you like their wings, done. You cannot go there anymore, and you especially can’t put the next chick on. I do not want to go to my favorite spot, Angel of Harlem, and see you there! Nope. Find another place, matter fact go back to the wack spots you was frequenting prior to meeting the amazing me!

Story Time: My favorite bar while I was with my ex was Tonic. OMG! I turned 21 at Tonic, so it was my Ace of Spades, well I put my ex on, and he loved it there. That after we broke up, he thought it was acceptable to continue to frequent my spot, and even brought his damn friends. Negative! It’s not fair to me that I am no longer able to hang out at the bar I love because you don’t know how to follow the rules and break up with Tonic.

I am a lot more careful about who I show my favorite spots to, and trust its a couple. Because I’ve explored New York City so well, I had hidden gems from everything to dinner to dessert. I wonder IF I had the guys I was dating sign an agreement that they wouldn’t frequent my favorite places once we broke up, if they would actually sign it.

Tristan Jonez.

Loving on me.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 14th is my second favorite day, my birthday comes second to none. I love all the over-the-top displays of affection, today just feels brighter. I am single this year but that doesn’t stop my love fest, I just love a lil harder on my friends, my woes.

My Dream evening for tonight, would be seafood from Clawdaddy’s, Champagne, and HBO’S Insecure, the complete season 1, then Love Jones. I promise I will do a complete write up of Love Jones, because as a kid I didn’t understand it, but as an adult, who has love and lost, I get it now!

So please, Enjoy tonight. Whether your in love, or loving on yourself, Have an amazing Valentine’s Day.

Tristan Jonez.