Q&A

You’re talking to a man who has a demanding job, so he doesn’t communicate as frequently as you would like, as of right now, it’s not an issue but you know if things continue they will become a problem.

Question, Do you advise him of your feelings?

Answer

I think communication is always a good thing. So being upfront should be a part of your daily routine, however it will be all in the way you tell him. You are aware he has a demanding job, so he may not have easy access to his cellular phone. Even though you may be attached to your phone, he may not feel the same about his device as you do yours. If this is really a problem for you, you have to let him know, otherwise it will slowly annoy you that he doesn’t communicate as much as you’d like. Your gentleman may feel as though he IS communicating more than adequantely enough with you, and thus isn’t reaching out more during the day. Just talk to the man, find the middle ground.

Tristan Jonez.

Care Less/Careless

Although I was not married at the time, I had an affair.

My partner and I was on the outs, arguments daily, and just in a state of unhappiness. We were nearing the end of our relationship but was still making an ‘effort’ to be together. We had put in time, and was trying to get back to the place where we was extremely happy with one another. Something just wasn’t clicking! I had booked a trip to Chicago, as I was secretly planning on moving there, and had two interviews scheduled. During my visit to the Windy City, I went to a local lounge, for grown folks, and meet an older gentleman. During the rest of my trip, we were together often. I returned back to Chicago three more times, to check out the scenery there and to get to know this gentleman better.

I was entertaining this gentleman while I knew I had a boyfriend back in New York. Although this was wrong I did not feel remorse for my actions. Even though I was not intimate with this gentleman, I would later find out that my beau was not being as faithful as he made me believe.

T. Jonez

Bounce that Ass.

I’m currently head over heels in love with bounce music. I’ve been fortunate enough to have been able to see Big Freedia in person at Brooklyn Bowl in 2015. However It is my goal to see Big Freedia in person in New Orleans. I think I may get that chance as she is performing in NOLA at the end of February. I’m even thinking about attending Mardi Gras this year, but I don’t actually like Bourbon Street at all. However it is something on my bucket list I want to do.

I’m currently listening to New Orleans Bounce Essentials on Spotify, Do you guys have a favorite bounce song or artist?

Tristan Jonez

Shrt & Swt

On the suggestion of a friend, I am going to attempt to write a short story. I am going to be way out of my comfort zone here but I will get this done. Tonight I wrote a page, and I really would like to stay up longer, but I am dirt tired. So I will pick up where I left off in the morning.

I will give you a peek into my writing world, when I write, I am only dotting down the movie that is playing in my head. My characters are living out their lives as if they are not only figments of my imagination. My characters name is Rachel and Andrew/Drew, however until the book is finished EVERYTHING is subject to change.

Jonez.

A Consumer

I’m starting to feel as if I am loosing myself within myself with the all thought consuming idea of being alone. Being alone, not being able to experience love again, not being able to experience the joy of finding out you’re having a baby, never knowing what its like to have someone look at you as if you’re the only one that matters. As much as I don’t like it, I am okay with being single. However I am not okay with ended up alone.

Am I supposed to seek? Or wait for love to find me? Depending on who you ask, will depend on the answer you receive. Then there are billions of people on the planet, how can I possibly find the person that is for me? Is there more than one person for me? Do I stay single in an attempt to date more? The bigger the pool, the more options, the more chances to pick the wrong man. And when I do ‘pick’ am I using my heart or my head?

I’m starting to understand the logic, that I may never find the one that’s looking for me.

Sadly, Tristan J.

After Break up.

I am not petty but right is right. If we break up, you have to break up with everything I put you on to while together. So that bar you like, done. That restaurant where you like their wings, done. You cannot go there anymore, and you especially can’t put the next chick on. I do not want to go to my favorite spot, Angel of Harlem, and see you there! Nope. Find another place, matter fact go back to the wack spots you was frequenting prior to meeting the amazing me!

Story Time: My favorite bar while I was with my ex was Tonic. OMG! I turned 21 at Tonic, so it was my Ace of Spades, well I put my ex on, and he loved it there. That after we broke up, he thought it was acceptable to continue to frequent my spot, and even brought his damn friends. Negative! It’s not fair to me that I am no longer able to hang out at the bar I love because you don’t know how to follow the rules and break up with Tonic.

I am a lot more careful about who I show my favorite spots to, and trust its a couple. Because I’ve explored New York City so well, I had hidden gems from everything to dinner to dessert. I wonder IF I had the guys I was dating sign an agreement that they wouldn’t frequent my favorite places once we broke up, if they would actually sign it.

Tristan Jonez.

Loving on me.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 14th is my second favorite day, my birthday comes second to none. I love all the over-the-top displays of affection, today just feels brighter. I am single this year but that doesn’t stop my love fest, I just love a lil harder on my friends, my woes.

My Dream evening for tonight, would be seafood from Clawdaddy’s, Champagne, and HBO’S Insecure, the complete season 1, then Love Jones. I promise I will do a complete write up of Love Jones, because as a kid I didn’t understand it, but as an adult, who has love and lost, I get it now!

So please, Enjoy tonight. Whether your in love, or loving on yourself, Have an amazing Valentine’s Day.

Tristan Jonez.

The Perfect Kast

Yesterday, I came across the Podcast, “The Perfect Kast” after they liked one of my photos on Instagram. I listened to episode 31:Black in Love, which was their Valentine’s Day podcast, and it was pleasantly entertaining. The host; Benji the prophet and J Leaux made listening, sort of an interactive experience for me. I found myself talking back to them, as if I was a part of the conversation. I laughed throughout, I cursed them out as well. The two host did not sensor themselves when chatting about interactions between men and women. They both took ownership of their asshole-ishness, as well as their sensitive nature when it came up. I respect that they held no punches, none. They expressed themselves throughly, and at times the two hosts, Benji and J Leaux, battled each other about what was the correct course of action to the question that was being answered. I definitely had lots to say during the entire podcast. I enjoyed that they reached out and had two females, Jazzy the Jewel and Miss Nikki, bring their prospective. Although I believe men are most times stupid in their behavior and logic it was refreshing to hear what two blk men had to say about love and relationships.
Luckily for me, listening to this episode gave me a lot of inspiration for content for my own site. Don’t take my word for it, go check out The Perfect Kast on Instagram, iTunes and Sound Cloud… Download it now!

Tristan Jonez.

Bee You.

I am not sure if I spoke about this here on Tristanjonez.com, but when you are being your true genuine self, the Universe reaches out and gives you the very things you are asking for. When we finally stop trying to put on, and imitate others, thats the very moment when your flower blossoms. I want to think I am always myself, but I know there are times when I hold back for fear of coming off a wrong way to someone. I am embracing my crazy, my contradictions, my warmness and my mood swings all at the same time.

As the quote states, we are out here acting like we live more than once. The time is now to fully embrace who you are, however you are. When you start being your true, amazing self, you are opening the doors so that your tribe is able to recognize you!

Are you still looking for your tribe?

Tristan J.

Mature X2

I’m maturing quite nicely. There are times that I want to lash out on the people that have wronged me, but lately I’ve been turning the other cheek. And for some I’ve even reached out to them. We are all human beings, and continue to make mistakes, I am no exception. I know that I don’t have any pride when it comes to reaching out to folks, there are folks out here that are extremely good people. I am willing to overlook some shadiness, and move forward. Do I need them? Not necessarily, I know I can go on living my life and be just fine. But I want to be more than just fine, there are folks that I want to be friends with, that the friendship that we’ve created has had meaning. So if I have to be the bigger person and say ‘hello’ first I am okay with that.

In life, some things are worth putting your pride to the side. Have you been the bigger person recently? Let’s Chat!

Tristan J.

T. Jonez pt.1

Disclaimer.

I am a writer. I write shit. Most of the time I am true to the events as they happened. Other times I … write. My life is not as dramatic as I write. I do apologize if it seems as if I am not being genuine but I assure you I am. Keep in mind I wrote a book that was largely based on me and there were times when I had to change events.

So to all the folks who come across Tristan Jonez, just know she is real, she’s somewhere within me, Tiffany. Either way, why write about my real life, when the real stories lies within in TJonez?

Jonez.

Release Now

Written on 2/11 at 1:03a

I think I am becoming way to dependant on my cellular device. It is the first thing I reach for in the morning and the last thing I put down in the evening. I think I am going on a cell phone detox for today. I know my main function for my phone is to grow my ‘business’ and get more folks to visit and read my website, but I am feeling like I need a little break with being so connected to the World. My brain feels like its in overload, been in overload and is begging me for a break. It is healthy to scale back on certain tools, and this good ole cellular phone of mine, will be put down.

We will chat on Sunday, when I’ve completed my detox.

Tristan J.