Prize Money

I do believe we some (most) times forget that we are the prize. We are the ones to be pursued, cherished, adored! You, above all else, have to know your value. How can you show someone how you should be treated if you aren’t treating yourself as such. Folks learn from action!

I once found myself not being myself because in my mind, this is a “good guy” and I have to fit into whatever image he sees of me. I don’t want to loose this man’s interest cuz then I’m back to square one, and who wants to start all over? But I can’t settle, too many close calls to settling, that I’m not going to start that now. I’m the prize, and I have to treat myself as such. It’s no need to advertise what I bring to the “table”, as the man that’s looking for me will be able to realize my potential!

Jonez

Haterade Nation.

I’ll admit, because I’m always super honest with you guys, that I almost turned into a hater this week. As you all know, there’s nothing more I’d like to do than live in my Soul city of Chicago but when it came time to transfer, unforeseen circumstances prevented that. So a coworker IS actually transferring to Chicago and I was a bit bitter at first when I was told. I was (almost) a hater because I wanted so badly for that to be me.

I had to be real with myself, and remember how blessed I was for the opportunities that are presenting themselves, and Chicago may not be my destination right now. I owed it to myself to trust my journey but to wish my coworker well on her path. Since today was her last day, I brought a banging cake and a card, that had every little trinket that would remind her of New York. I decided to make this about her, and I’m so glad I did.

So, tell me when YOU was almost a hater!

Tristan Jonez

Changes.

#TBT / #FBF

I was going through a few of my old photos from as far as ten years ago and it definitely made me smile to see how much I’ve changed over the years.

When I look at this girl, I see such a carefree, spirited person who had the World at her feet. I was still learning about myself and what I needed from myself. This Tristan, lived life as if the next day wasn’t promised.

This Tristan J is a woman who knows when to be soft, and allow someone else to take the lead, but she’s independent enough to make whatever moves are necessary for survival, she’ll be victorious. She’s still a spirited opinionated woman who won’t hesitate to let you know when you’ve fuked up but she’ll help pick you back up.
When you look at your old photos, what do you see?

Jonez baby!

Clawdaddy’s

One of my absolute favorite seafood restaurant in New York! A fan (Me) favorite, especially amongst folks that are looking to have a romantic date night. However I must warn you, it’s VERY easy to get tipsy way before you even put your order in for dinner as the happy hour rivals most I’ve been to. I usually start off with their signature adult Capri suns, that goes pretty nicely with my grilled oysters. They’re sprinkled with butter and parmigiana cheese, Drool worthy!

I can’t come to Clawdaddy’s and not order a seafood boil of Crab Legs and shrimp, which topped off with Cajun spices, Corn and potatoes makes coming to the LES (Lower East Side) truly worth it.

Tristan J.
Clawdaddy’s

185 Orchard Str NY

Single Blues

As much as I’m enjoying “Single life” (Lies) I’m currently going thru Single Blues. It very much could have everything to do with the upcoming change in season which is right around the corner, either way, I’m not looking to be single anymore. However I’m not looking to jump into anything random, just for the sake of not being single. I wonder if it’s possible to forget how to be in a relationship? If it’s possible to forget how to be a party of two? What if I’m no good at being someone’s significant other? Can I admit I’m a bit nervous which I think is the reason for my Single Blues. I could just be living way too much in my head but I’m concerned.

How have you all dealt with being single while feeling like it won’t be ‘just like riding a bike.’

Jonez

Drink?

Thirsty.

I had to have a conversation with myself last night. I was being a bit thirsty, and it was coming off as desperation when I looked at my words/actions. As much as you don’t want to be single, don’t force it. Things should have a nice flow to it, and if you find yourself trying to create a vibe, instead of letting a vibe grow organically, you might be coming off as thirsty too.

As much as I want to be done with this dating nonsense, I can’t fake chemistry where there is none. I remember dating this one guy that was amazing! Super supportive, kind, genuinely liked me, but for me there was no spark! I thought he was dope as hell, but I didn’t feel anything. Dating him was out of the box for me, he was nothing that I would go for but my dating preferences can’t be trusted. How effed up would I have been if I continue to date this amazing man who I had no interest in?

Ultimately you have to stay true to yourself and sometimes even check yourself!

Jonez

#RiskHappy

A Huge Shout Out to the Amazing folks over at #RiskHappy! Huge Huge Shout Out!

I can’t even begin to question why these amazing folks slid into my DM to Thank me?! For Guess What? For Supporting Them! Listen Linda!

If you are unfamiliar with #RiskHappy, first take the time to check out their website, Riskhappy.co // The Purpose of #RiskHappy is a stance against comfort zones (I love mine) insecurity, mediocrity, and the like. Their Goal is to help people become friends with fear.

As Scared as I am with the projects I’m currently working on, I find myself heading over to #RiskHappy Instagram quite often to not only finding inspiration but to be motivated by the stories that are featured.

Its funny too, because (The day they reached out) someone was just telling me how much of an unhappy person I was, and here #RiskHappy comes along showing that clearly I’m not as unhappy as this man was trying to tell me I was. All you had to do is BE YOU, and those folks that are supposed to be in your life will be! The people who are supposed to help you grow will do so. What is meant for you, will ALWAYS be yours! PERIOD! Just a tad bit of math, #RiskHappy has 21.3K followers, and yet they were still able to Reach out to me, with my amazing 754 followers! I am not questioning why they chose to reach out to me, just thanking them for doing so! I appreciate you more than my words could ever describe.

Thank you again!

Tristan Jonez

Revamper

I know it takes money to make money but once you invest money in something you are making the decision to be all the way official with it. My website desperately needs to be turned into an official website. I am super proud of myself, for my content but the general look of Tristanjonez.com needs to be revamped. When I do come to the site, to read what I’ve written, I get a lil bummed out by the look of it.

I wonder if my readers feel the same as I do when I visit my site, if so I need to put the money into my site. February was my happiest month on record, and I want to believe that maintain Tristanjonez.com had much to do with that. So its only right that I treat her as good as she’s treated me.

I am making it my business to get my act together, personally and professionally. Let’s focus on professionally though.

Jonez.

Being/Doing

You have got to allow folks to do WHATEVER makes them happy. Seriously! If being with that man makes them happy, let it. If being alone makes them happy, let it. If being a complete asshole makes them happy, let it. Listen don’t stop anyone from being who they are and doing what they want to do. You might consider their choices a mistake, let it happen. Life has gotten better for me since coming to that realization.

Whatever you want to do I am all the way cool with it. Now, will I be friends with you, only if your happiness doesn’t interfere with my own. If what you are doing or being doesn’t calm my spirit then I can’t rock with you. Because I am going to respect whatever decisions you make, and I would expect the same courtesy from you. Too many times do we want folks to allow us room to do as we please, but we don’t extend the same courtesy to others, keep that in mind when being and doing.

Tristan Jonez.

Actively

I don’t participate in the “New Year, New Me” however I’m still the same person, not looking to change overnight. I am however learning to push myself to be the best version of myself. So everyday I get up, I actively do my best to be happy. I am tired of living in negativity of my own doing, my own words against myself. It sucks the energy right out of you! I want to keep my blue days, for when I am sick with the flu.

I don’t make new years resolutions cuz I will never keep them for more than a day. My mind is not wired to remember something like that. So I am actively working on being genuinely happy. I want to always have a smile on my face, I want to feel good about the decisions I am making, and the content that I’m putting into the World.

That is the life I am looking to live.

Jonez.