Sick AF

I’m always surprised by the number of folks who care about my well being, as the number of folks who don’t, especially when I am sick. Maybe it’s because I know what I would do in these type of life/death situation, Yes I know I’m dramatic! I’m aware that I am a rare breed, and I can’t expect everyone to do what I would do, but wtf. I’m not looking for anyone to go out of their way but It would be nice to have folks reach out, just to check on me.

So I will celebrate those who have, went above and beyond for me. I appreciate you!

Tristan Jonez.

Beauty Related.

Being a brown chocolate girl there are shades that I never thought I would be able to wear. Lighter shades of pink was amongst those colors but BAM! With the right lip liner you can conquer the World.

Recreate My Lips with Kat Von D Lip Liner in BloodMilk And NYX Soft Creme Matte In Milan.

Window Shoppin.

My Coworker bestie sent this to me yesterday to describe who I am and surprisingly she is spot on! I promise you guys, I be having financial goals, but I see a sale and its a wrap. Lately I’ve been window shopping, I haven’t purchased a thing but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to buy up the whole collection. For the past two months I was just purchasing shit left and right, I can’t even remember the last time I checked my bank account. I was like I KNOW I have money in the bank so why not just spend it … ALL.

Thankfully, I did not hit rock bottom but I know if I would have continued with those horrible habits I would have. As much ‘fun’ as it is to just spend all my damn money, once the realization hits, and reality starts to set in, it wasn’t as fun as I thought.

Jonez.

Vamping.

I’m going to use this time to complain my little heart out about my website, then I’m going to take the action necessary. I’m so over the design, layout and trying to figure out what goes where, and how it needs to be set up. I’m mostly tired of asking for help, since HTML isn’t my strong suit anymore. It’s true if you don’t use it you lose it… Well I’ve lost it! I’ve asked a few friends for assistance, and they’ve been too occupied with their own lives to provide assistance, which is fine. It’s time I take this website into my own hands, since it is MY baby. I want to believe I produce content that is well received, but who would want to come thru, if it doesn’t look like a super inviting place?

The time for action is now, so I will be getting my coins together, so this website can be a shiny beacon of self care empowerment! Sometimes, (Most) you have to be prepared to do shit yourself.

Tristan Jonez

SideNote: Thank you for letting me vent. I appreciate you guys.

Fly Awake

The Best Seat Will forever be the window seat. I feel weightless every single time an aircraft takes off, appreciating where I’ve been and having gratitude for where I will travel to makes living life worth it. I can’t imagine who I’d be without the opportunity to visit certain countries/communities. Every time I experience a new place, a new part of myself is unlocked.

If you don’t realize, I hold travel in high regard. You’ll never reach your highest level of enlightenment without travel. No excuses, Make it happen!

Tristan Jonez!

Beauty Related.

I’m always down for ANY shade of purple. It’s Matte? Even better! I had fun with NYX Ruthless, it goes on smoothly but beware if you have a heavy hand, as with a few swipes you’ll put too much in your lips. It’s very creamy, and surprisingly light, extremely pigmented as NYX Cosmetics products usually are.

This possibly can be used as a transition color from late summer into fall. But if you’re anything like me, it’ll be a colour you’ll wear all year round.

Jonez

Married? Eh.

For whatever reason, I’m not safe from married men. I would never ever date a married man, cuz karma would seriously hurt me. It’s not worth the problems you will have! As much as dating can be a pain, dating someone who is already committed to another just isn’t the move. I promise you! I’m honestly not sure what vibes I’m giving off to make married men even feel they are allowed to interrupt my space.

SideNote: I’m semi questioning if I want to get married, since lately married folk can’t stay out my inbox. What’s the point of dedicating your love to someone if you’re going to look into have your sexual needs fulfilled elsewhere beside your partner?

Jonez.

Who is Respecting Who?

Even though most would say this is the season of the side chick, I think we have to keep into perspective, that we are all one choice from being a side chick, unfortunately.

I almost found myself in such a position, but then I chin checked myself. Although I am single, and able to do WHATEVER the hell I want, I chose to be aware of the complete situation. If I willingly ‘date’ a man in a committed relationship, then I deserve whatever Karma may have in store for me. He may not respect the relationship, but you definitely have to respect yourself enough to not play seconds to someone else. We can’t always blame the shortcomings or the demise of a relationship on the man who is in said relationship, especially if the other person is aware. Now, I’m not saying you should approach the ‘other woman’ cuz ultimately Its for the man to take full responsibility.

However my question still stands, If he doesn’t respect the relationship he is in, should you?

Tristan Jonez.

Worth the Wait? I’ll never know

While growing up in Baltimore has helped me create long lasting friendships, it’s also given me one of my most painful relationships. I met Troy* when I was 14, and my little World stopped. He was the most mysterious boy I had ever met. I promise you, I wasn’t even a factor in his day and he was my whole damn World. I was too shy to speak two words to him but I just knew it was love. As the months went by we became cordial, can’t help but to be when you see each other every day. I would constantly discuss him with my friends, but they were sick of my obsession. Unfortunately, with Baltimore being the crime capital of the world, at that time, Troy was arrested for a crime unknown to me, but I saw that as my opportunity to empower myself and reach out to him.
I couldn’t tell you how many letters I wrote but the care and love that went into each one was my therapy, I’m sure it was his as well. My feelings were solidified every time he wrote me back. I do believe our forever friendship was forged during that time. Unfortunately we would never be together in any capacity, it’s weird, cuz I love this man. Still. I’m sure it has everything to do with how he views me. To him, I’m the best of the best from Baltimore , Im his Queen, his best friend, his wife and the mother of his only son. Troy respects me in a way that no man has ever, he places me on a pedestal, that I could never live up to but I love him equally.

In Troy I see my motivator, my biggest fan, my protector from all things seen and unseen, he’s my best friend, my love, my dream, and even with all the beautiful qualities he possesses we will never be together. I’m not sure if it was ever written for us to embark on a journey together.

However, whatever the future may possibly hold, Troy, I’ve loved you from the moment I met you, and I’ll love you forever.

Tristan Jonez

*Name Has been Changed

How happy is your Vag?

My Vagina is the happiest she’s been in a very long time. We have become in sync with one another, how? I had to learn to listen to my body. Think about it, After eating avocados (RIP) , in some form, my body would reject it by hurting tremendously until I removed it from my body, usually by throwing it up. The vag behaves the same way.
In my early twenties, my vag was always angry with me and as a result I was frequently present at my doctors office. Of course I thought I knew ‘her’ so I didn’t pay attention when she wanted more attention. I wasn’t taking care of my body, especially my vag. When I started to limit my juice and soda intake, she became happier, the more fruits and yogurts I introduced her cause her to then be extremely overjoyed.
The September Issue of Essence has an amazing, and well informative, article on making sure your not only listening to your vagina but keeping her in the best of health.
What are some things you’ve personally done to ensure your vaginas happiness?
Jonez

Bwn Suga

I Always come back to “Brown Sugar” featuring Sanaa Lathan and Taye Diggs. It’s just that feel great movie, that will forever remain a classic synonymous with black love.

The perfect line I’ve ever heard was “You are a perfect verse over a tight beat” Oh shit! I definitely didn’t appreciate that when I first fell in love with this film. I hadn’t experienced life in a way, that causes you to appreciate it. Do you know how many rappers, no artists, create a career attempting to find the perfect beat, to go with the perfect verse? Forever man! Honestly That’s the sweetest line a man could ever use, especially when he sincerely means it.

Here’s to finding your classic verse over a dope beat.

Tristan Jonez

DearDad

I’m not sure why you’ve stopped answering my calls, or even making any of your own. I can’t remember the last time you’ve asked how I’m doing, or inquired about my new position at work. I do however remember you telling me I need to get over how I was feeling, that you are who you are, and nothing was going to change. I know that I’ve become the parent, and I had to check on you because the roles had reversed. I accepted that responsibility, but it also left no room for me to seek advice from you, as the only response I would receive would be nonsense. You always made it a point to ask about when I would be having children, but never wanted to inquire about how my social life was going. Do you have grandchildren money? I doubt it, so I will have children at my own pace, just like I’ve done in other areas of my Life.

I’m baffled, honestly.

I’m elated that you have two god children, you were granted a do-over of sorts. So this time around do everything opposite. Be there more, Listen more, Participate more, be the shining example because you have these two little impressionable minds that are looking to you as a role model. Be that Example I know you can be. Love you forever.

Tristan Jonez.